There is a saying in China called "pitiful parents in the world", on the issue of children China`s parents are really a little different from other countries.
In Chinese culture, parents can sacrifice everything for their children. So there will be a special group-overseas accompany mother.
A documentary recounts the state of life of three overseas attendants, sharing their joys and sorrows with readers.
Towards a better environment and education
Wang Xiaochun and her husband Ding Yong originally lived in Beijing.
They graduated from famous universities, have master`s degrees, after graduation into a large company to work, life is superior and stable.
But after having a daughter happy, the couple began to worry. Because of Beijing`s serious haze, they worry about their daughter`s health.
In order to make their children grow up healthily and give them a better environment, the couple chose to emigrate.
The family came to Auckland, New Zealand.
Her mother, Wang Xiaochun, gave up her job as a project manager at a large state-owned company in Beijing and officially became a full-time overseas mother.
There`s also a full-time mom, Rita., who gave up a superior job.
Rita, a project manager at a large communications company in Beijing, lives in Beijing with her husband, daughter and son.
Because the children`s hukou is in Shenzhen, although they go to school in Beijing, they are unable to participate in the college entrance examination. But back to Shenzhen college entrance examination may not be able to attend a very good university.
Finally, Rita took two children to San Francisco. in the United States.
She sent her daughter to the top five private schools in the United States and wanted her to "go to Yale" because "there are so many American presidents there."
Zhang Jing, from Chengdu, is also part of the army of full-time mothers.
Zhang Jing graduated from Manchester University and worked as an international news translator on a domestic television station.
Her lover also studied abroad. Considering that education in the United States is more consistent with children`s nature, a year ago the couple decisively emigrated to California with their five-year-old daughter and two-year-old son.
The sufferings and joys of a full-time mothe
It is not easy for non-native speakers to start their careers abroad. But with Zhang Yong`s efforts, he eventually set up his own studio in New Zealand.
Zhang Yong`s clients are mainly Chinese, because he often needs to return to China on business trips, family care fell on his wife Wang Xiaochun.
Wang Xiaochun used to be a project director of a large state-owned enterprise in China. In the past, she didn`t think it was great to be a housewife, didn`t she just take care of the house and the kids?
But when she took care of her one-year-old son and five-year-old daughter alone, she discovered that she was not good at anything, and that it was still the easiest way to go to work!
Born in science and engineering, she made a long list of her daily tasks.
The environment in New Zealand is very good, but there are fewer opportunities to work. In fact, soon after, Wang Xiaochun cast a lot of resumes, but repeatedly hit the wall. On the advice of her friend, she found that her resume was very out of line with the local situation.
Now, Wang Xiaochun has to wait for the children to get older to find a way back to work.
Rita, another full-time mother, has a similar life. After four years in America, she spent most of her time being a father and a mother.
Because of her husband`s career in China, the two people have a very short time together. Rita can only be responsible for the study and life of two children.
Because of her poor English, she can only teach herself on the bus between pick-up and delivery of her children on weekdays.
Rita, however, has high hopes for children. She says they came to the United States for their education, so they chose San Francisco. "here, a plank fell, and nine out of ten were doctors."
Many of these stay-at-home mothers have good careers and good living conditions in the country.
However, is it too wasteful to give up your existing life to be a full-time mother for the sake of your children and instead face the challenges of living habits, culture and language?
Zhang Jing doesn`t think so. Suffering from rhinitis, she said she was fed up with the domestic climate and hoped that her children would grow up in a better environment.
Usually, she records the differences between Chinese and Western education in her blog. Unlike the first two moms, she disagreed with her father`s return to the country and her mother`s staying in the United States.
In her view, family together is the most important, in order to give children a better education to break up the family is not worth the loss.
Fortunately, Zhang`s lover soon found a job in the area, and she also worked as a teacher in a private morning school. Thanks to the efforts of both sides, the desire to be reunited was finally realized.
For the kids, it`s worth it.
In many people`s opinion, early education in foreign countries does not require much money.
However, Zhang Jing says this is not the case. In their home, the cost of raising children still accounts for the majority of the family, tuition and miscellaneous expenses, insurance, all kinds of costs combined to spend about two hundred thousand yuan a year.
Even if the child does not get sick, do not travel, do not apply for any tutoring class, a month will also need 3000 yuan. She could not help feeling that children were the real luxury. Raise a child, all buy dozens of Herm è s.
But all this is worth it. The daughter`s kindergarten is taught in English and Spanish, and his son, who is not at school, is now studying Japanese in the library.
In the future, children can go to Stanford if they do well, and go to an ordinary university if they do. Anyway, they are the world`s top public schools.
When she first arrived abroad, Rita said, she was shocked by the spirit of freedom here. Children here can dye their hair, nails, wear more exposed clothes and slippers to school, the school will also teach children not to get pregnant in class, and so on.
Rita proudly said her daughter, who is studying in the top five private schools in the United States, hopes she will be admitted to Yale University in the future.
His 10-year-old son also attended numerous interest classes. Rita took his son to golf every week and signed him up for the National Golf League.
Of course, not every stay-at-home mother can arrange her life as happily as these parents do.
Some reading mothers come abroad will feel lonely, no sense of existence, not to be understood, day after day with tears, and even depression symptoms.
Thus, a full-time mother needs not only the wisdom of parenting, but also a strong heart to face daily trivialities.
According to a report from the Ministry of Education, 82% of parents are ready to make sacrifices for their children`s success, and more than 1/3 of Chinese parents have completely lost their personal time.
According to reports, "quality of education" is currently the most important reason for high net worth of immigrants, the proportion as high as 83%. In order for children to "not lose on the starting line", parents can be said to be painstaking.
Most of the "stay abroad" full-time mothers have the idea of looking forward to their children and women, and the happiness of the next generation seems to be the whole of their lives. However, whether this "sacrifice" of Chinese parents should be advocated is worthy of our deep consideration.
