A lot of people asked me, "do you really have no regrets when you emigrate?"
This question stunned me. I was busy working and living every day. I had not considered it carefully for a long time. I hesitated for a moment to reply, give me some time, I want to write a separate article on this question, to tell you, "immigrants, after all, I do not regret it?"
I will only regret one thing in my life, that is, I have hurt my friends because I have no shelter or other reasons. If this happens, I will feel sad and blame myself for a long time. But other than that, I look back at my life, nothing I regret.
That year of undergraduate graduation, the national score of the entrance examination and research is 315, I tested 314. Now look back, I am especially glad that I didn`t go to that Rushzi`s news graduate student, but chose to enter the workplace, and then have the present me. If at that time study, there is a completely different life.
When I was at Tencent, I gave up a lot of options and had a short departure to go to startups. In the career is not smooth, encounter ups and downs, Tencent internal empty a once-in-a-lifetime position. Had it not been for leaving and returning, internal transfers might never have been possible. I lost a lot of that departure, but in the long run, I got more.
The king is my lifelong partner, the old husband and wife no longer have the romance between lovers, usually there will be quarrels and fights, but I never regret marrying her for a moment, I sincerely think that she is the one who spent my life with me. Apart from the king, there is no second person in the world who understands me, supports me, and tolerates me. The same is true of Wang Zhongwang. There are so many faults in his body that he does not know what kind of person he can become in the future, but I will never regret being his father.
Immigration is one of the most important choices in my life. Will I regret it in the future? I don`t know. It is likely that there will be repetition at a time when life is low or adversity. But so far, I have no trace of regret. I thank God for everything I have given me every day.
Regret or not, in fact, we are mainly looking at gains and losses, from my personal point of view, what are the gains and losses?
The most immediate loss is that I lost a decent job.
Such hours of work can make people feel fluttering, and everyone may feel the same way during the upswing of their career. I love and like this job, in which I get more and more sense of achievement and confidence, and I feel more and more professional in the field I am good at.
It is inevitable for those around you to give up this career and choose to emigrate. But in one of them, I know the most serious. No matter how good it is, it`s just a job. And this job requires me to devote almost all my life to sustain, which means sacrificing health, hobbies, family company. As the gold handcuffs became stronger and stronger, I found myself drifting away on the road to fame and profit. The happiness that fame and profit bring to me is not what I finally want, that kind of happiness.
King, like me, we like to work, and we know that work is an important way to prove a person`s worth. But what is the pity of giving up a job that does not know the future and loses its advantage after the age of 45?
I gave up my way of life in Beijing. I love Beijing very much, where there are memories of my youth. But now Beijing has become more and more unknown to me, I do not know whether it is the reason for aging, but I yearn for a quiet and simple environment. Up to now, a corner of Beijing may suddenly come to my mind, but I don`t miss it, let alone miss it.
I leave relatives and friends, but the modern lifestyle has made my friends fewer and fewer, childhood classmates and partners can not get together once a year, the party is either bragging or bragging. On the contrary, there is time to talk about home on the, social app.
Compared with what I lost, I got too much after emigration!
First of all, the king and I found a career they love. This business is far less high-end than the domestic job, the income is much lower, and there is no aura, but this business is always surprising to us.
We no longer work for others, we no longer have bosses, we don`t have to ask for late reports, let alone limit our innovation and imagination, and do whatever we want. This career can be free, tired, when in a bad mood can rest at any time.
The most important thing is that this is a career that can be called``career`` , which cannot change humans, but can truly reflect our value. Even if the value is only a little bit, even the influence of the people around us, this is enough to satisfy us. This is still a career that can be done to the old, in the future, at the age of 80, we can still work every day, can still make money, think very beautiful.
Materially, we get more. We sold our apartment in Beijing in exchange for an independent villa. When the elders of the family come to Canada, they always express their feelings when they see house. This is the treatment that can only be enjoyed at the provincial level!
Indeed, none of our friends in Beijing live in a single-family villa, and in addition to the room we can`t stay in, we are still enjoying the garden of birds and flowers. Food, clothing, use, play, although there is no luxury, but everything is good. The quality of small details in life is the real material enjoyment.
In education, Wang Zhongwang attended private church schools with an all-IB education system, from kindergarten to high school, without worrying about the school for 14 years. Although private schools charge, $700 a month is cheaper than domestic private schools, such as school buses, uniforms and meals, not to mention hundreds of thousands of tuition fees.
Canada, as an immigration country, has top talents from all over the world. Wang Zhongwang`s extracurricular education is the world`s top teachers. Take golf, the former coach of the Korean golf national team, in addition to Canada`s top courses, each private class is only a few hundred yuan. After dinner, I often take him to the stadium near home to practice, 20 yuan can play in the driving range for an hour, green training ground practice putter is free. I know that many of the children who study golf in China fly to Shenzhen every week for classes. I don`t know how much that cost is more than ten times more expensive than Canada.
In my spare time, every summer is the season to play. There are countless oceans, islands, lakes, mountains, national parks. Mountain climbing, dismount, boat, surfing, sea, fishing, hunting, motorhome car......are really impossible to play. These days we just picked out of Vancouver Island, and we`re going to go to the wild lake camp again. Wang Zhongwang and I are like two coalballs, which is also the return for being close to nature.
On the relationship between people, I found the feeling that there was no interest entanglement, regardless of the "value" of friends, completely from the bottom of my heart to make friends. Friends are getting more and more day by day, and friends` relationship is getting closer and closer day by day. This harvest was completely unexpected to me before I emigrated.
In the family, we get more. The whole family is together every day, to support each other in life, and to help each other at work. Wang and I learned a lot of life skills, from daily chores to repairing house cars. More importantly, we can really calm down to think and realize the education of our children.
It turns out that many books on education have been read, all theoretical, and few can be used in practice. In addition to not having time to accompany children, there are a lot of things that run counter to social and overall values. If you want children to stand out in the fierce competition, you must break away from the ideal "child, take your time." Fight against the clock to arm the children.
Now we don`t pay much attention to education at all times, but we begin to have a lot of time, we can quietly accompany the children to read idle books, almost luxury to let him feel natural, let him know what is real humble and polite, we have to lead him with him learn and feel every knowledge of this society. Until today, ``child you slow down`` is based on the whole society, a family time, and the endless company of parents.
In Canada, I was baptized as a Christian and established and consolidated my faith. Sheltered by faith, I felt quieter and more peaceful, and I began to think about the meaning of life from another perspective. It is a difficult process to recognize myself, and my values and outlook on life are gradually clarified in the process of continuous adjustment. Although I am still far from that answer, but I began to see what kind of person I want to be, what kind of life I want to chase, and what my happiness is.
Emigrating to Canada brought me far more than I lost. Even, instead of counting the past as loss, I`m getting the most important, new, life experience. This experience, on the other hand, is not evaluated from simple gains and losses.
So, do I regret emigration? Not at all, not at all. Even if there are setbacks and lows in the future, it is also a life experience. That kind of quiet, peaceful, free, unknown life, is what I want.
