We live in an age of respect for wealth, and society`s view of wealth is often directly reflected in family education. When I was young, encouraging children to suffer was the most popular form of education in ordinary families, but today it is very different.
Parents do not want their children to bear the hardships they have suffered again, so they do all they can to give their children the best material conditions. As long as the children study hard, they have to do what they want and pursue the so-called "elitist education." In fact, step by step will push the child into the abyss of doting. As a result of this educational situation, a new population is being formed, that is, the "rich second generation" of poor people.
Are living conditions the only key factor in determining a child`s life? I got different answers in three families.
1. Australian Asian family
Point of view: create conditions for children to exercise and grow in groups
On the plane to Melbourne, I had a good conversation with the Chinese wife in my neighbor`s seat. She has two daughters who take them to Shanghai, China each summer to attend a summer camp to learn Chinese, on the one hand, and to have their children trained in collective life on the other.
Compared to some Chinese families, her parenting philosophy is advanced: the essence of language is communication, learning new languages while playing, and children are more likely to communicate with the world.
Moreover, children cannot be kept in captivity, and the collective environment enables them to understand that they are not at the heart of the world.
2. Rich Chinese families
Point of view: it`s not easy to do anything, but you still have to try hard
I worked part-time in a cafe when I was in college. One weekend, a well-dressed middle-aged woman pushed open the shop door. She wanted to bring her son to the coffee-making process. A cup of coffee from nothing to go through cumbersome steps, the little boy did not blink for an hour, also failed to complete a cup.
"I just want you to know that it`s not easy to do anything in this world, but you still have to try it, let`s try it again," the mother said as he lost his breath.
3. Rich Chinese families
Point of view: you must complete all accumulation of hardships in order to have wealth
I had a brief conversation with a rich second generation in an interview. Born into a wealthy family, his father, a property tycoon, owns multiple properties in an inch of Beijing. When he was young, his parents sent him to Australia to study, and at an early age he went abroad and suffered a lot, but he also developed his independent personality and self-management ability.
When he was 18 years old, his parents said he only had to pay for his tuition and accommodation, and that he had to find a way to spend his life. He recalled that in order to save for meals, he had worked in a restaurant, washing dishes until 1 am, just because the night shift would pay a little higher.
When he returned home, he took his own start-up plan to find his father and tried to apply for a start-up fund. But father says if you want to start a business, you have to find a way to finance yourself. So he took the plan, knocked open the door to every investment agency, and finally got 300 million financing. Of course, the money also comes from the father`s support. Now, his business is in full swing, before the experience of hard work, has helped him a lot.
His father`s way of education is very simple, to wear the crown, must bear its weight, you must complete the bottom accumulation, you can have wealth. Even in rich families, the myth of overnight prosperity is never advocated. My parents were so strict with his education that I was ashamed.
Even in rich families, the myth of overnight prosperity is never advocated. My parents were so strict with his education that I was ashamed.
4. The way these three families are educated gives us a lot of inspiration.
Apocalypse 1: child, you are not the center of the world
China pursues family planning for many years, one-child education is an important social problem. For many families, children are the only babies, and overindulgence makes them easy to be self-centered. But in Australia, most families have multiple children, they need to learn to get along with others from an early age, to understand that they are only an ordinary member of the family, not only to assume the responsibility of the family, but also to integrate into it.
This kind of education helps them to integrate into society as soon as possible, knowing that they are not the most special one.
Apocalypse two: the destination of education is not family and school, but society itself.
In addition to learning to integrate and assume in the family, in Australia, most children experience a social practice in high school, where they do not need to attend classes but allocate time to social work in order to strengthen social adaptability. This special experience benefits many children.
The result of education is not in the family or in the school, the most important experience is the test of society. The things you experience and the problems you solve determine whether you have the wisdom to embrace the baptism of life.
In fact, the second generation of rich people do not want to reach out for food, the living environment determines that they want to be recognized, have to pay more efforts to practice. The average family doesn`t have to indulge too much. Parents don`t want their children to eat it again. If they don`t let their children try everything, they can only breed laziness and incompetence, and even if they go into society, they won`t be able to use it.
Revelation 3: do not bring adult utilitarianism to children, and do not be "monster parents"
Australia`s educational environment is different from China`s, in order to allow children to adapt to the educational environment and lifestyle, but also to adapt to local conditions. Because of the difference of social environment, we should start from many aspects to improve the comprehensive quality of children.
Try to get rid of the idea of traditional education, good academic achievement is important, but not the most important, because it does not mean everything. The cultivation of independent personality can let the child receive a lifetime, should give the child sufficient space to grow. Otherwise, it becomes Japan`s "monster parent", when you care only about children`s achievements, all kinds of freaking out, children and parents will lose the bond of love, more like a utilitarian exchange.
Finally, true elite education is not to hold children in honeypots, nor to learn as the only measure of life, but to give children the possibility of becoming elite in a scientific way. Indeed, rather than having a child born with a golden spoon, independence and diligence are the best life passes you can give your child.
