Last year, Ms. Wang and her husband, who had studied and worked in Beijing for more than a decade, were determined to put the Plan on the top of the agenda.
In an interview with journalist, Ms. Wang just came out of an immigration consulting firm in the Fur Building in Beijing, with a large stack of information and tables in her hand. She smiled slightly anxiously at journalist and said, "it turns out that immigration is still a big project, and maybe go and stay. It`s all a tough choice. "
Ms. Wang`s feelings represent the inner thoughts and struggles of many families who have chosen to live abroad in recent years.
Is immigrant life really that beautiful? In addition to specific life details, such as diet, shopping, transportation, housing, medical care, education, work, economic sources, parents reunion, etc., other data can be used to speak.
In addition, there are some complex feelings, how to describe it, I like to sum up: immigrants started a lot of people`s second life.
Immigrant life trajectory is in fact so, if summarize the status of immigration, can be summed up for coming, leaving, left.
According to the analysis of the true story of the immigrant friends around us, we divide the post-immigrant state into five types.
In 1, the return rate is as high as 50% in the year, the first, immigration is a binge.
Just emigrated or lived for a period of time, find and imagine is not the same thing, or feel completely unable to adapt, quickly return to the country, such a large number of people.
At first, best friend K wanted to emigrate to Canada, friends and relatives feedback a few negative news. My dear sister told her that her relatives had emigrated from Canada ten years ago.
Unfortunately, after two months, it was difficult to find everything.
At home, relatives and couples are company managers, and go to a new place, language, understand nothing, work is not easy to find. The husband got a job easily and gave up because he couldn`t drive.
The couple did not feel at all that Vancouver was a paradise on earth. Instead, they felt that "the excitement was theirs, I had nothing to do with it." in less than two months, they returned to their homes and would never come again.
Well-acquainted middle school students introduced the story of college students. His college classmate is a cardiologist in Beijing and has a reputation for knife surgery. Because North America requires doctors to have a local license, and the local license takes a year or two to go back to school, the heart surgeon finds himself unable to do even a veterinarian and returns home a month later.
In another extreme case, the couple went to Canada together, and a week later, the husband went back to China to encourage his wife to stay. Not long after, the husband filed for divorce, and the husband married a third person who had lost contact.
They went with little money, the husband returned and no more money, the woman had to rely on 200 Canadian dollars in her pocket, to survive tenaciously. Now she speaks English as well as the locals, buying house, cars, falling in love with photography, and starting a small business.
When Xiao K heard the story, she could not help feeling that her ex-husband`s emigration seemed to pave the way for a divorce, but don`t think too badly of someone.
2. Moan while not walking the second, complaining to stay full of.
Stay to live, but keep complaining, as if forced to stay here. Complaints fall into two broad categories.
One is to see the prosperity of the motherland, economic took off, stay in the country`s classmates, colleagues developed, and feel lost complaints.
The general conversation begins with the success of showing family and friends at home, followed by "if I hadn`t left", "if I stayed" and then criticized the "miserable life" of the present. The common words are:
"although the house here is big, that is, two to three hundred square meters of house, but the house price can not come up! When you sell house, don`t you think live a retired life, doesn`t have the money? Look at the north up to Guangzhou, the house price! Then selling a set is a set! "
If it ends here, it is a matter of personal introspection, but they tend to drag the audience into it, and they will say:
"you see, like you, if you don`t come here, there must be no problem finding a teaching post at a domestic university. Why should you teach children Chinese here?"
Or even more "directly on the blood" to give comments on other people`s lives, "the old horse right now, is not fooling around, begging for food, how to be a CEO in the domestic good ah!"
The question is, who told him he had chosen to stay in the country and was "sure" that they would be able to reach their wishes?
Did he ever ask them what they were thinking about their partner? They may never analyze, think, but are willing to indulge in their assumptions and complain endlessly.
The other kind of complaint comes more high-end, has nothing to do with material life, but a more metaphysical focus on "cultural comparison". Common saying:
The Westerners are snobbery, too! You don`t see who they usually see smiling, in fact the heart is not sure how to comment on you!
Discrimination against Chinese-that`s for sure! There`s no need to think about it.
Don`t blame the domestic taxi drivers for saying "three words". The westerners here have also cursed people, but did not say it clearly!
What`s so good over here? Yes, the scenery is good, the environment is good, the air is good, and there are few people. But lonely! Everybody looks good, but who`s talking to you? Even the communication also has the culture estrangement ah.
The world is there, with different hearts and different views.
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There are many such people in the emigration of China.
Netizens sell second-hand furniture in social app group, write is "money is spent, have to return". Some people asked if even house also sold, answer: house does not sell, but also plans to make money one day and then come back to live.
Neighbor J also has to return for a while during the summer vacation. Her eldest child graduated from high school last year when she planned to go to Toronto to go to college. Her husband still works in China, and J`s father died, she wanted to take the second to accompany her mother, and her husband reunited with her for a few years.
But the husband`s "Maple leaf card" was changed last year, and they were confident that the whole family would be moved back to Toronto for three or four years. At that time, the old two were also in high school for ten or eleven years, and it was the critical period in which to apply for the university.
The girl G, who went to the free English cram class for immigrants, is ready to return home. The better her husband worked in the country, she was reluctant to resign, both in terms of salary and sense of accomplishment. She had two children alone in Canada, and it was hard and long-term separation was not good for the stability of her family.
When she first emigrated, she held the mentality of "squatting in immigration prison". But in the past few years, she has fallen in love with the country, and she has emotionally regarded Canada as a place for her own well-being.
However, considering the fact that she was separated from her loved ones, she had to go. G`s house was not rented or sold, so she wanted to bring her children back every summer vacation. As for a few years to go back, it is still unknown.
Those who return after naturalization like G are not in a minority. A lot of people like G originally thought, concentrate on stay down, take passport to return immediately. This is true not only for Chinese immigrants, but also for immigrants from other countries. They all have a desire to come back, leave.
But as the saying goes, plans fail to keep up with changes, and there are inevitable reasons why they will not come back. As a result, the Immigration Board believes that it is possible to stay long-term only if it stays for more than five years.
4. After emigration, a new chapter will be opened.
The fourth, after immigration gorgeous turn around.
Life has a new starting point, is no longer happy things.
Mr. Wang from Guangdong is one of them. Not long ago, he came to England for 10 years, and finally got his permanent status.
After obtaining his identity, he returned to his country, but found that he had been hit by all kinds of shocks.
"all of a sudden, I felt like I couldn`t fit in. The domestic life is more practical, the business field workplace, everyone is eager to put their lives in, appear to themselves in particular`do not want to advance`;
On the social scene, if you don`t dress well, others will look down on you; eat, talk all over the place; give gifts, get along with people everywhere, heat is lively, but a little tired.
The rules of English life, simple human relations, orderly exchanges, but I may prefer. "
Speaking of his job in the UK, he said he was an electronics worker, and when he first graduated from the UK to invest and start a business, he was under greater pressure because his wife and children came with him from China to support his family on his own, so he couldn`t save much spare money.
Unexpectedly, after a series of market fluctuations such as the financial crisis, Brexit and so on, he has done more and more projects and stood up in the UK. Income is not "trench", but life can also be counted as "lively".
After gaining British status, he registered his new company, ready to take root here, expand business. He said he felt the UK gave him sense of security, especially in health care and education of the, live a retired life.
"what do domestic people do to save their money? Some people are for live a retired life, to see a doctor.
In England, you don`t have to worry about it, you`re sick, you don`t have to worry about it, you eat in the ward, you take good care of it. Old, basic pension is enough for you to live. Children`s education is a big expense, and you don`t have to worry about it unless you go to private school. "
How to look at the matter of "sacrifice work" for immigrants, Mr. Wang said quite simply:
"if you want to live in Britain, of course you have to have an identity, that`s all! There was a real sacrifice to stay in the first place for the sake of identity.
But sacrifice is not for nothing, and immigration for the sake of immigration is pointless. The present so-called sacrifice is to find the right individual position, for the future better harvest.
As you try to integrate into local life, recognize the values here, work, family, and life become inseparable three elements, you will definitely live a better life. The country is also very good, but here I feel better to live, more relaxed, more happy. "
"gorgeous turn around" is also a common phenomenon of remaining immigrants. With most immigrants coming, it is hard to get back to work and face new career choices. Some people find it difficult to find a job, while others feel a lot of space and opportunities.
YY, who majored in finance at the University of Manchester, wanted to stay in the UK through entrepreneurship, but she was really interested in language and the media, and didn`t want to force herself to work in finance for five years simply to emigrate.
But Xiao Y is also a very resilient girl: without working experience, she was stunned by her enthusiasm for foreign languages, co-founded in the UK`s GradMatch platform, invested in an online cinema project, and was responsible for the development of the Chinese market. Assist in developing different language learning platforms.
Although not in line with her academic background and very difficult, but she took full advantage of her skills, Huali "changed careers", successfully won many graduates fearful "entrepreneur visa", happy to stay in the UK.
In the eyes of many people, immigrants are giving themselves new opportunities in a new world. As long as you work hard, you can always find a new direction that suits you.
5. After emigration, the fifth type overtook the domestic cause, and it reached a new high after emigration.
Immigrants can overcome language barriers, customs and cultural differences, the lack of contacts, but also let their new career beyond the achievements in the country, really not easy. However, there is no small number of people who have reached such a level.
Ms. Zhu, who has worked in the domestic finance / real estate industry for eight years, has already achieved the position of general manager, which is seen by many as a "win". But she still feels that her work encountered a bottleneck, difficult to have a new breakthrough.
Meanwhile, hoping for a better education for her 12-year-old daughter, she decided to step down to the UK while opening up new ground for her career.
In the end, Ms. Zhu focused on investment finance, relying on her many years of experience in the industry, and with the help of Downton International, a British immigrant law organization, succeeded in starting a business and gaining a firm foothold. The family settled down in Britain through "entrepreneur immigration".
Emigration abroad, but also let many people deeply experience the benefits of differentiated survival.
When you are a little green, although you can feel safe, but not prominent, but a little red, it is more likely to be found.
Ms. S, 52, a professor of Chinese literature and a doctorate in ancient Chinese literature, has published many essay, but only one of the countless doctorates in ancient literature. In her own words, it was meaningless to see the head for the rest of her life.
So she made a decision-to start her own business in England. In England, the absolute number of doctorates in ancient Chinese literature was obtained. Although there are few opportunities for a doctor of ancient literature here, there is a greater possibility of getting those rare opportunities.
At present, in Britain, nearly a year after her career started, Ms. S founded her own Chinese language and literature education platform, promoted Chinese culture, carried out Chinese language teaching, organized activities, training courses, lectures, and was very busy.
Perhaps, there are a lot of similar stories, the story of immigrants can not be said.
Every day there are new immigrants, and every day there are immigrants, leave, a typical example of the besieged story.
The number of Chinese mainland immigrants in Britain is said to be millions, and there are millions of different stories.
But no matter whether or not to go or stay, as long as it is their own serious choice, it is right.
Emigration is not a trip, it is not a consumption, but a choice about yourself and even the family. In such a noisy environment, how to distinguish what is their real needs, find their own positioning and value, is not easy.
When you don`t know how to choose, ask yourself, do you know your goal in life?
Just like Mr. Wang said, many people`s goal is to make money, pay home loans, feel that such a life is very stable, there is a run, to their own, an asset is not necessarily a sense of stability, but also may be a sense of restraint. "I don`t need an entity to tell me where my family is. Where the wife and children are, there is home. "
Then, home, is the purpose and meaning of his life.
Finally, moving abroad is not an easy decision, and it may take a long time; it requires our patience and thought, and it requires us to be well prepared for the difficulties foreseen in the process.
There is no "unified answer" on immigration; there is nothing absolutely appropriate or unsuitable. All you need is to find the goals and answers of your life and make your own choices.
So, if you`re still on your way, don`t worry, take your time.
