It is less than a month before the New year begins, and on Weibo there is also a discussion of the topic: anxiety Disorder during the Spring Festival.
As in previous years, we are about to face the souls of the elders three consecutive questions: how much salary? Are you looking for someone? When are you having a baby?
This has become a concern for many young people, and even returning home for the New year has become a "burden", and the most troubling thing for everyone is the "urging" and "arranging blind dates" from the elders.
This is not true, in the crowded streets of Beijing, there are several mature "dating corners" can be busy recently
What I heard was "my son's condition is normal, but there are Beijing hukou, Sanhuan also have suites …"
"my daughter came back from America last year. I have my own company. "
"89. Education is lower than you. Where's your master's degree?"
"it must be from Beijing. It is also easy to communicate and it is convenient for both sides to take care of each other. "
"if there is no Beijing hukou, the ability to work must be strong."
It turns out that in Beijing, ah, many parks have such "meeting angles" organized by the people themselves, that is, to solve the "life-long events" for their children, but do not underestimate this "dating angle". They're not small, and they even have a prescribed "communication" time.
For example, in terms of scale, Zhongshan Park has the largest size, generally reaching about 400 people; Tiantan Park, secondly, can reach 200 people.
In terms of time, blind dates are usually arranged in the afternoon, and the form is very "distinctive".
Parents usually hold their children's "information cards" in their hands, or put them on the ground. If the parents look at each other correctly, they begin to have the next step of communication, and this is where the first play is.
Beijing hukou is the minimum standard
During the journalist visit, it was found that the current dating requirements have been "upgraded," and many parents' request columns clearly state the need for "Beijing hukou" and "Beijing work." if the information card does not have these "priorities," I don't think anyone's coming up to talk to you.
And many netizens said that this is one of the characteristics of "Beijing-style blind date": there is discrimination against foreign hukou.
There is no room, but it must also be within the third ring, of course, the RV is a very important point for both parents, but these material requirements have already increased the pressure on young people, and now it is even more "strict".
Not only to have a house, it must also be in the third ring, if you have a room in the third ring!-No problem, let's continue to talk.
No room?-I'm sorry to interrupt!
If whose children's information card says there is a room on the second ring, there is no need to think about it, here must be the hot spot in the eyes of parents!
Bachelor degree is the minimum requirement, overseas education is no longer popular, in our concept, some go abroad for advanced study, some overseas education must be very popula
But now the market has changed-there is no longer a preference for studying abroad.
Many parents in Beijing say that there are really too many foreign students now, and that they do not care much about this "gilded" education now, even if they have education, even their undergraduate courses in China don't matter, they are not very concerned about this layer of "gilded" education. But never lower than an undergraduate!
Some parents also said their true voice: the other side education is too high, afraid their children will be looked down on, or the basic age of high education are a bit older, boys are better, but girls more suffer from the loss
Even a mother said, "you see, she read a master's degree, it's no use." Girls don't read too many books, read a college, undergraduate is good. Married out, married and had a baby, it's pretty stable, how nice. "
"after reading so many books, I have delayed myself, and now it is very difficult to match, quite hard to match! A woman without talent is virtue! "
More exaggerating is the description of an old man: "here, the man is a bank card, you have money, you can buy a house, so the woman is a real estate."
Look at her, she looks fine, she's never been married, she's a fine house. But she is old, so her house is in the suburbs. "
There are also requirements for parents, state-owned retirement is the best, in addition to the requirements for both children, now many parents in helping their children's blind date, but also put their own information, such as "state-owned retirement", "state-owned enterprises retire"
And the goal is to let each other know: we are not the burden of the family! We have a pension!
It seems that parents are heartbroken for the happiness of their children.
Over there, parents are busy hot, and here, young people also have their own views on blind dates!
Zhihu's last question about "how do you feel about dating" attracted a lot of discussion from netizens.
The highest praise is such a paragraph: inappropriate is poor, no feeling is ugly. Love at first sight is good-looking, thoughtful is having money-A blind date means
Others said that dating is very good, met different fields of girls, later also helped each other, a number of friends and many ways.
Some people think: take this opportunity to get in touch with all kinds of men in the society, broaden their horizons, and dawdle a few meals at the same time.
Are you serious about eating?
"finally, what do you think of today's" Beijing-style "blind date? Is this a sign of a morbid society? Is it too material to pay attention to hukou and RV? Is it really good to put your child's information outside and "show" it?