In the past two days, a sad news post-80s mother in Xiangtan jumped from the 13th floor with her two-year-old son and several months' daughter on January 6 (the week before her birthday). All died.
In her 15-page note, the mother recounted her despair and helplessness, tolerance and grievance. Some lamented her extremes, some denounced her husband, and others complained about her mother, who had been persuading her to endure. Whatever the public opinion, one of the reasons why she is so resolute is the depression that has plagued her for three years.
Depression, English is depressive disorder, has been frequently mentioned by the media in recent years. On the one hand, because of some stars because of depression and suicide, such as San Mao, Zhang Guorong, Chen Lin, Qiao Renliang, Lee Eun-Ju, Robin Williams and so on, or explicitly said that they are suffering from depression, such as Cui Yongyuan, Chen Kun, Ge You and so on.
On the other hand, depression, especially postpartum depression, has caused many families to fall apart, some mothers have committed suicide or killed their own children, and tiger poison has not eaten. The extreme approach taken by depressed mothers upended the basic perception.
But it's not just a star or a mother who gives birth to depression. Examples of depression also abound in the student community, especially in the international community. There will be as many as 464000 results on Google's search for "overseas depression," and college campuses have become a high-risk site for depression. On average, 32 percent of students were diagnosed with depression in the first academic year, and 13.5 percent suffered from depression, according to the American Association of University Health. Chinese students are the vulnerable victims of depression.
For the first time in their lives, most students are far away from their homes, facing intense competition and academic pressure, as well as uncertainty about the future and lack of emotional competence. So when faced with negative events, they are very fragile, fragile at a loss. According to incomplete statistics, in 2014 alone, eight Chinese students ended their lives due to depression.
The global incidence of depression is about 11 percent, according to the World Health Organization, meaning one in ten people is suffering from depression and is expected to be the second-largest disease in humans after heart disease by 2020. Of the more than 300 million people with depression, two to three had thought of committing suicide, while 15 percent of those with severe depression chose to commit suicide, with an estimated 1 million deaths a year from depression.
Depression is not terrible, it is terrible that people lack awareness of depression, and do not know how to seek help!
Singer Yang Kun once said, "I've been suffering for six years because of depression, the most painful of which is when I don't know what depression is."
Here, Xiao Wei wants to popularize the basic knowledge of depression, and will also introduce Australia's services that can help people fight depression, to help those in need.
First, depression is not an emotion, but a collection of emotions, including sadness, distress, and depression. Depression is everyone will have, is normal, but only long-term fall into this downward depression in the mood, can be depression! And the indicators of this time need specific analysis of specific problems. Therefore, it is not recommended to search the Internet for the depression test self-test!
The two core symptoms of depression are "self-rating decline" and "lack of pleasure".
Depression's low self-evaluation can be unreasonably low, as low as dust. And in the face of the closest family and friends, they show more irritability and self-blame, and they will really feel that they are not good, that is not good, all kinds of bad, totally worthless, this is a cognitive fallacy. It occurs in many cases of postpartum depression.
Lack of pleasure, refers to more psychological pleasure than physical pleasure, this symptom is more common. For example, you are an foodie, but discovering nothing makes you feel delicious and happy; or, you are a shopaholic, but you find yourself losing shopping's desire. In general, depression patients lose the 'ability to enjoy happiness'.
Suicide, because it accounts for only 15% of the total, is just an additional symptom of depression. But because of the destructive power of the act, so it will receive special attention, but once someone has come to this step, it is too late!
In a word, depression is a "series of changes" rather than a simple emotional problem, and it has a wide range of effects, from physiological to psychological state to interpersonal relationship to social function can be damaged.
Second, depression is not what we often call psychosis, and there is no need to be ashamed of it. Illness is not fearful, but taboo medicine is terrible.
Of the nearly 400 million people suffering from depression around the world, only 25% seek professional help, compared with 8% in China. But the number of depression patients in China has 90 million people, about two hundred thousand people each year because of depression and suicide!
People's misunderstanding of depression, as well as a sense of shame, led to ultra-low rates of attendance, as well as super-many tragedies!
Depression is treatable, and if you do find depression, it's no big deal to see a doctor. If the diagnosis is true, cooperate with the treatment!
Third, the support and understanding of relatives and friends is the greatest help to help people stay away from depression.
(if you already feel depressed by the time you read this article, please forward it to your relatives and friends right away.)
Well-known host Cui Yongyuan once said: fight depression, the biggest problem comes from the people around. "including my family, my leaders, they don't think they have the disease. They think I just can't think, be careful, I like to calculate, before the fire is not hot now, so I can't stand it, it's all that way. "
And a friend of Xiao Wei's side, after becoming a mother, suffered from postpartum depression, and her parents said that she was too spoiled to drill through the horns, what postpartum depression was, even when she cried so much that she was going crazy, and so on. And always talk big to her. You know, in depression patients, when the onset of abuse or reasoning, is completely useless. This contempt or even disregard for depression can often cause "secondary harm" to depression patients.
After their mother jumped with two children in Xiangtan, many said they had experienced a similar period of depression in their moments, and that what helped them out was the unconditional support and protection of their loved ones. A former depression patient shared on Zhihu:
In fact, depression patients, if there is still strength, the most hope is that the people around them can be based on understanding and support. Maybe you don't have to say anything, even if it's company, hug the lover, make him cry, give TA a relatively safe environment, even if it's only a few hours and a few minutes, and TA can handle it.
However, in Australia, if there is no family and friends around, or relatives and friends can not give you support, what should be done?
Fortunately, Australia attaches importance to depression, has a more open and tolerant environment, but also equipped with a full range of services.
First, Australia has a 24-hour hotline for depression-related counselling and questions:
In addition, for foreign students, universities are equipped with a special psychiatrist for students, and is free!
for instance
The University of Melbourne's Psychological Counseling appointment Web site is at http://services.unimelb.edu.au/counsel/individual.
A specialist at Monash University, Counselling and psychology services, can make an appointment with a psychiatrist on the following Web site: http://www.monash.edu/health/counselling
RMIT students can book counseling services at the following address: http://www1.rmit.edu.au/browse;ID=v9kzvptqkqqmz
Finally, for postpartum depression, there is an Australian agency called PANDA, which specialises in counseling for parents with postpartum depression (men may also get it), a service that is also free of charge. The http://www.panda.org.au/, hotline is 1300 726 306 and can be called from 10:00 to 5 pm Monday through Friday.
In general, hotlines are emergency calls, but there will be professional counsellors or doctors working for you. If they are sure you are at risk of severe depression, they will advise you to consult a professional hospital. They will also visit regularly on a weekly basis to follow up on your recovery.
Life is a fragile flower, little hope that everyone can get away from depression and return to their positive and optimistic life. And when you find someone around you who is depressed, don't forget, fully understand, be completely tolerant, and try to help them get back on track. I hope the world can become more beautiful and warm because of your kindness!
