A few days ago, a girl who had just come to Australia for a language class complained to the editor about a real thing:
One day when she came home from class, she was about to knock on the door and ask her roommate if she wanted to go out for dinner together, but as soon as she got closer, she heard an unspeakable sound coming from her room.
Even more to her breakdown, when she came home from her own meal, her roommate greeted her as if nothing had happened, and next to her sat a half-naked foreign brother.
In fact, on gender culture, Chinese students in Australia have suffered a lot of "cultural impact."
For example, if a boy looks at another girl on a date in China, the girl must immediately question:
What are you looking at? Do you think they look better than me?
In Australia, however, women usually don't mind seeing other people with their male partners, because they're not even formal boyfriend and girlfriend, they're just dating (date).
It's about to start with a game, a gun, or a date.
For Chinese, dating is a confirmation of relationships; not in Australia.
Once there was a Chinese little brother who met a passionate Australian girl on a party. Two young souls collided and the young man had a wonderful night with a beautiful Australian girl.
The next morning, the younger brother immediately confessed to the Australian girl: please be my girlfriend!
I didn't expect this Australian girl to be surprised! Then she apologized to the little brother:
I'm sorry, I love the night with you, but we just met one night and can't be a boyfriend and girlfriend yet.
The Chinese little brother was also confused:
When he was with his first love girlfriend at home, he just wanted to hold the girl's hand when he did not confirm his relationship. He was rejected by his first love girlfriend as "we are not yet boyfriend and girlfriend."
Now he has "clapped for love" with his sister, but she didn't mean to be a boyfriend and girlfriend with him?
Later, he learned that in Australia, even if boys and girls went out to play together, it would be clear at the beginning whether it was hang out (going out and), hook up (having sex) or date (dating).
For Australians, even if I go out alone with you and hang out (or even hook up (), but only if we have a good understanding of each other and make sure that we are suitable for each other. To start a formal date.
In Western culture, you can have sex without being in love, or you don't have to be a boyfriend or girlfriend after having sex. In their view, this "no result" is a kind of responsibility instead.
Australians look sunny and open, but they are very conservative:
For them, "I love you (I love you" means a formal, even marriage-based relationship. Therefore, if there is no long-term development between the two, the best way to do so is to have no commitment.
Dating is not the same as establishing a formal relationship, but once established it is responsible
As can be seen from the above, Australia's sexual culture can be said to be the opposite of China:
In China, the relationship is generally determined before two people kiss and have sex. If one of them cheated, or "stepped on a few boats", they would break up;
But in Australia, it's not a problem with how many people you have sex with, because "you can date a few people and screen out what you want."
But once a relationship is formally established, it means that your body and mind are accountable to a person, and that there must be absolute loyalty in this relationship.
This is why so many European and American stars, once exposed to scandals, ta's public image will fall: because people would think that ta lack of responsibility, and then think that ta personality problems, from now on the world despised and despised.
Acceptable, but not acceptable.
I believe that through the above "Science Popularization", many people will first think of the once-famous American TV series Gossip Girl, which has a fairly comprehensive description of the sexual concept of Western culture.
A Chinese girl, Cindy, asked her if she could do it before holding hands and kissing before dating a local boy in Australia for the first time.
"I thought it was funny at the time," Cindy recalls. "it turned out that Westerners weren't all as messy as Gossip Girl." I got a better impression of him, and I thought it was cute. "
After confirming the relationship, Cindy was brought into his social circle by her Australian boyfriend. As a result, Cindy is better integrated into local culture than other Chinese students.
The relationship, however, ended when his parents learned that Cindy had an abortion with her first boyfriend.
Cindy later said that while Australians are open to sex, many of them are devout believers, and abortion is unacceptable to them.
"A lot of Chinese rules are vague, but Australians will be very clear. They seem to be more open, but they actually have a clear red line."
In spite of the shock, Cindy chose to respect and understand her boyfriend's parents, and eventually broke up with her boyfriend.
It's normal to talk about shyness with friends.
Another Chinese girl named Zoe said that some of her Australian friends would discuss sex issues at the dinner table when they went out to play together, such as how to "flirt" with a boy who recently met a lover on Tinder. This makes Zoe a little confused at first.
But slowly, Zoe got used to it. She found that both boys and girls in Australia "know more" than Chinese people of the same age:
Unlike the Chinese, many people have sex late and have little experience. Then domestic schools, society, sex education are not well taught, so there is a gap. "
In Australia, sex does not need to be obscured. Even mainstream media, such as the Daily Mail, often publish sex-related articles to convey sex knowledge to readers.
But even so, according to Zoe, Australians are serious about sex. She gives an example: even when it comes to "one-night stands" on Tinder, Australians are very open-minded;
Compared with Chinese students, this is always ambiguous, and there are even some deceit.
At least all kinds of complaints from official accounts about "scum man" and "green tea" have made Zoe feel that Chinese students have not learned the essence of Australians in terms of hospitality.
Therefore, Chinese students in Australia's "sexual culture" after the impact, or learn to take its essence, to its dross ah!