Chinese can survive well, not only in Australia, but also anywhere in the world. Because the Chinese are extremely capable of suffering and are good at hard work. This is an important feature and an advantage for the Chinese.
However, despite the hard work of the Chinese, the motivation is morbid, and almost all of them aim at "getting rich" without the pursuit of eternal values such as knowledge, creation, justice, love and so on. Therefore, diligence is not respected.
This causes the Chinese to be marginalized in almost all social environments. In Australia, for example, the political status of the Chinese community is almost lowest, behind blacks, Indians, Middle East people, Muslim communities, and even Africans.
The power of life provided by Han culture is limited to wealth, power and prestige. As the saying goes, "get promoted, make a fortune, be a man". This is natural to the Chinese, but it is very narrow in the view of human culture.
Human beings have a strong interest in the eternal values of justice, love, truth, faith and so on. But there are few in Chinese culture.
Psychological research has found that the motivation of one's struggle is related to the level of personal health. For people with neurotic personality, the purpose of life struggle is to get rid of anxiety. All human movements to get rid of anxiety point in four directions: control of love, money, power, prestige.
The choice of different directions is related to the source of anxiety: those who seek "control of love" are often lack of love; those who pursue money are once tortured by poverty; those who pursue power are filled with a sense of helplessness; And the person who pursues prestige has had the experience of being humiliated. (the Neurotic Personality of our time.) Karen. Horne)
Compared with these four directions, we will find that the four efforts of neurotic personality is exactly the goal of the Chinese people's life.
First, controlled love, Chinese parent-to-child relationship is a typical representative. In the eyes of Chinese parents, there seems to be no idea that children will grow up, and that children will be treated as private property for all their lives.
Chinese husband-wife relationship, subordinate relationship, official-civilian relationship, is a copy of this relationship, that is to say, to control others in the name of love.
The other three directions: power, wealth and prestige, promotion, prosperity, the pleasure of men and women, is the goal and motivation of the Chinese people. I've been working hard to get rid of anxiety all my life, such as getting rid of low-level goals such as being looked down on by others, satisfying physical desires. Those spiritual goals, such as seeking truth, pursuing justice, practicing conscience, spreading love and so on, have never appeared in Chinese culture. From this point of view, Chinese are generally neurotic, and their goals of life cannot point to creativity and morality.
This is an important reason why the Chinese are hard-working but difficult to be respected.
So, how does the universal neurotic personality of Chinese culture come into being? The reason lies in the lack of "love", the most important emotional core of Chinese culture.
Since ancient times, there has been a lack of love education in the Han culture. Confucian culture emphasizes hierarchy and inferiority, and divides people into three, six, nine, and in recent decades, it emphasizes struggle and confrontation, and hate education. School has divided children into good and bad students since the first grade, creating a sense of fear and shame. In such an environment, it is impossible to achieve mental health, deep in the heart of widespread hostility.
Hostility is a key cause of neurotic personality formation. As a result of the underlying hostility, people have to suppress this hostility to avoid conflict, which can cause constant anxiety.
In order to release their anxiety, neurotic patients can not help but point to the "control of love, power, wealth, prestige" these four basic directions.
This, in turn, can be a basic indicator of whether a person has a neurotic personality. If a goal that everyone strives for cannot exceed these four directions, then we can basically judge that person is a neurotic personality patient who is controlled by anxiety.
Only a healthy personality, can a person have cultural creativity, can have a sense of mission and good values.
Only when the Chinese generally acquire healthy personality and broad psychological power can they create a world-wide and widely accepted civilization.