In a twinkling of an eye, from the bustling motherland, to the cold Australia, has been nearly three years.
In the past few years, many friends have always asked me similar questions, especially those around me who want to study abroad or emigrate. They have come to ask me whether it is good or bad to go abroad, and want me to help me make some ideas on this matter.
I can only say, good or bad I can not say, I can only talk about feelings.
I was born and raised in China, graduated from college in China, moved around in several first-tier cities, worked for several years in several good international companies, and gradually changed from a professional rookie to a unique management.
In the outsider's view, studies, family, career are very successful, so, when I choose to go abroad, many people are very surprised, clearly has a stable prospect, why to challenge the unknown?
In fact, going abroad is an accidental but contradictory decision. In a small chat with my co-workers, I was inspired to have such an idea.
At that time, she was pregnant and told me that she was going to sign up for the morning class at the weekend, because it was very well resourced and very popular, and if she didn't sign up now, she would not be able to sign up for the birth of the child.
I am very surprised to hear this, an early class, how much difference, should be so much ahead of time, and tuition is not cheap.
Talking about this colleague is even more exciting, from early teaching, primary education in district rooms or private schools, to weekend counting, football, musical instrument classes, talking with people about housing prices in the north, up and down in Guangzhou. Surprised discontent and helpless can only follow the trend and tide.
Because at that time, my husband and I were also planning to have children, and I suddenly felt that I was thinking of starting from early education. Would it not be less than 20 years after graduation from college that our whole family would fall under the pressure of such a struggle for educational resources?.
At that time, I had just experienced a sense of job failure, standing in front of the landing window of the company, overlooking the Huangpu River and Lujiazui high-rise buildings and cars, and the gray sky, I began to have the idea of escape.
So it is hard to say whether this decision is a cowardly escape under the pressure of work and life, or a carefully thought-out choice for the way of life.
After all, there are few choices that are not complex, and decisions are usually the last decisions in contradiction, rather than a simple cause and effect.
But the experience after going abroad, we also do not regret.
So we began to prepare to go abroad, because Mr belongs to technicians, independent skilled migration route is not too difficult for us, this cumbersome and repeated hesitation in the middle of the show.
At the beginning of life in Australia, in fact, I am not adapted to, after all, domestic convenience and bustle, and all kinds of high-efficiency work, is really Australia can not compare.
For the first time, we waited in line for a long time for this kind of trivia, such as telephone cards, utilities and so on. When we watched the staff talking and laughing with the clients they were handling, I was anxious and thought it was a waste of time. In Beijing, Shanghai and Guangzhou, this kind of business is basically a fluid operation, although there are many people, but they are all about things. Although some are cold, but they are quick and efficient, thinking about a lot of things in to do list, at this time I miss the fast pace in the country. But looking at my front row, no one is as anxious and complacent as I am.
And in this respect is much more frustrated, I gradually learned not every day on the to do list of a lot of things.
So I found that my rhythm had slowed down, and I could be interested in going to the sun on the lawn for an afternoon, and I would not be anxious; Just having an afternoon of coffee with friends and chatting about things that don't make sense, and not thinking about effective social solutions; because I don't have so much to do on my list.
Gradually, adapted to the rhythm here, I also experienced this culture and rhythm of comfort.
The time limit for work is 9 o'clock, but even if you are a few minutes late or even half an hour late, there will be no severe criticism because it is more user-friendly within the scale;
The boss and the staff are more equal, after work will ask each other if we go to have a beer;
Even if you take pets to see a doctor on weekdays, as long as you say hello, the leaders and colleagues can understand, will not criticize;
Someone in the family is sick, colleagues and leaders will tell you, hurry back to take care of;
At less than five o'clock on Friday, the boss will rush everyone home without worrying about the imbalance between work and life.
Also is to go to the hospital, do not ask for five minutes, line up for an hour of haste;
Instead of having to worry about traffic jams every weekend, you can take picnic gear and enjoy family and friends on the suburban lawn without worrying about customer calls or e-mails.
Sometimes a friend who lives a long time abroad will not get used to when he returns home, and he will complain with me. When he goes back to his relatives and friends, he will ask you, do you have a man / girlfriend? When are you going to get married? Did you buy a house? How many houses do you want to buy? are you all buying house? When are you going to have a baby? What does the child learn now, is the ranking not very advanced? A set of problems came down, feeling half-body oil was scraped down, sweating dripping.
Every time I hear this, I can't laugh and cry when I see a friend who looks like the rest of his life.
Indeed, Australia is somewhat more culturally inclusive, respecting everyone's choices, not asking too much about the privacy of others, respecting the space for independence, and rarely asking what embarrasses you.
However, everything is two-sided, sometimes space, in fact, also represents a sense of intimacy carding.
Australia is sparsely populated, it is difficult to understand the Chinese-style extended family, of course, it is also difficult to understand the blood links under the extended family, the bones have broken the bond of kinship and intimacy, family-style help and prosperity.
While the land is sparse, the most direct embodiment is that there are few people everywhere, it is not convenient to go anywhere, it is not convenient to buy anything well in advance, there is no convenience at any time and anywhere, and no one has a lively atmosphere. I also have friends who have read books here for two years. I laugh at the mountain, water, boring, and finally can't stand the monotonous life of Australia to return to the country.
And stay abroad for a long time, the biggest problem is in fact or career development. After all, Chinese in this society still belong to subculture, outside the mainstream culture. At the same time, Australia's small population, the size of the economy, and domestic is not comparable.
Then the corresponding career options, and development prospects are unable to compare with the domestic. If you want to achieve a short period of time to become rich, then do not even think about it.
In general, I feel that Australia is an ideal place if you are a family-based person who wants to enjoy the slow pace of life, to spend more time with their family, and to be able to enjoy being alone. But if you value time and struggle as a sign of not wasting your life, then at home, it's heaven.
Finally, no matter where, you must first think about what you want, after all, no matter where, time is irreplaceable, choose good, stick to go!