Double happiness on the door: after getting the green card, Feng sister married!
Recently, according to American news, and through the editor close to Luo Yufeng's friend in New York, Ms. Feng, who entered 2018, managed two major events: getting a green card and getting a marriage certificate. These two things, starting with her arrival in the United States, took a total of 10 years.
Assuming that Miss Feng accepts her life, what will happen to her now? Should be unknown in such a ditch, give birth to a few dolls, repeat the life of parents. Reincarnation is a technical job, Feng's skills are obviously not good. Like millions of people at the bottom, silent birth, silent life, silent death. Their arrival, their departure, like an ant, one more, one less, as if they never existed.
Wang Hou will Xiang Ning have seed? Chen Sheng's words thousands of years ago were identified and inherited by Feng, a weak woman. You can envy Wang Sicong's reincarnation technology, you can also envy Jia Baoyu's jade birth; of course, you can also laugh at Feng Sister's incompetence, laugh at Feng Sister's ugliness, laugh at Feng Sister's hard work.
But, Feng sister is Feng sister, she takes every step very steady, every day is moving forward, she has to rely on her ability to touch the apex of life. She went to normal school, access to the Internet, she did not want to continue the older generation of life, do not want to continue the ancestral generation of the "dragon born dragon, Phoenix born Phoenix, mice and children will drill holes" ancient teaching; she knew that the world is more than that.
When I was a teacher, I lived on 150 yuan a month, she said. When I was in HKIEd, I lived on 100 yuan a month. I got a job before I graduated, and I won't give me a penny at home as soon as I get a job. It takes a month for a good company to get paid. Fortunately, I work and study part-time. Don't starve to death. But the company does activities, I can not even afford a dollar road fare, had to walk.
When she was 20 years old, my mother said to me, "you're not going to do anything," she wrote on her Weibo. I think it's really boring to be alive if you have to look in front of your biological parents and be careful. At the age of 21, I came home from the school where I taught, and my mother and brother happily counted how much I spent a month. How much money is left to take home. I said to my friend, in this life, I buy a car, buy a house outside. I don't have much money to get home. At that time, the monthly salary was 554 yuan.
To this end, she went to Shanghai, worked as a supermarket cashier, and even did what is considered a low-grade foot washing industry. She wants to be able to "drink coffee" with her peers in the flower-flower city of Shanghai, like everyone else, and make her children no longer "burrowing mice" through her life-long struggle.
In Shanghai, reality once again shattered Miss Feng's dream that her meagre salary would not allow her to drink coffee with her local peers and become "one of them". She's lonely, and the moon doesn't represent her heart.
Sister Feng has a back road, and she can go back to her hometown in the countryside. But there was no road ahead of her, no diploma, no beauty, no good father, no Bole to promote, no prince to save her Cinderella.
No one will remember Luo Yufeng, who cried helplessly on the streets of Shanghai in 2008, she once recalled. Always thought, this life can only be a loser to live. Or be vilified, attacked, or spoofed. A lifetime of notoriety cannot be washed away. Either no one knows, but they can't even afford to eat. No job, no boyfriend, no money, no house. Every day was exploited by the capitalists, panicked all day long.
Feng did not retreat, she went out of the way: she is seeking marriage. Overnight, she popped red. Though all of them reviled her and laughed at her. Some people say, "you don't look at your origins, you don't look at you, you deserve it"? And some people say, "Why don't you admit your life, why are you coming out to be a demon?"
The enlistment of marriage is, of course, a failure. Feng elder sister said: the more grass-roots, the road of life is more full of traps. Falling into a trap may not climb out of your life, so persistence is especially valuable for grass roots. Because we really have nothing but insistence.
However, she finally no longer silent, she finally proved her existence. She said, there are grievances to go up, no grievances to create grievances should also go up. Do not care about those grievances and tears, do not care about those criticism and saliva, as long as you persevere, waiting for you is only possible success.
Ren Zhengfei also said: life, destined to suffer many grievances. And the more successful a person is, the more grievances he will suffer. To get your life to extremes, don't care too much about grievances and don't let them tighten your heart.
Yes, Feng didn't accept her order, and she made a bigger decision: go abroad and go to the most powerful America in the world. I came to America because I couldn't stay here anymore, she said. I left because it was a human society, and I was the least good at dealing with people, so I couldn't stay there. And America is a business empire that attracts me like a magnet. I like business.
She also said that in Shanghai, even hard work can not be found. In the United States, as long as willing to work, can find a job, I am very satisfied. I came to America because I dreamed of working on Wall Street one day and becoming a financier. I came to America for the Statue of Liberty.
She wrote: what do you want to do in America? Why are we deceiving or even faking to get married in the United States? What do those people who spend $80, 000 sneaking in here for? Not just for a stable job, for a comfortable environment. Easy to buy a house, very cheap groceries and food. Children go to school free of charge. Almost always afraid of unemployment, sick can see a doctor, old age will have a pension!
She wants to prove herself in the United States, she wants to prove that as long as she does not accept his life, as long as she continues to work hard, then this person must live a better life. This time, it took her ten years to do two things: get a green card and find a good man.
I did this, she wrote, just to tell everyone: as long as I don't accept my life, there's no sparrow who can't fly the Phoenix, even if it starts to be low in the dust. Bless, encourage.
From a foot wash shop to a green card, married to a wife and settled in the United States, Feng, who does not accept her life, has been playing her finger in a room for 10 years.
Let's go back to Miss Feng's experience again:
At the age of nine, he began to work hard at reading every piece of material.
The first career plan was established at the age of 18.
Twenty years old, writing poetry.
20 years old, internship.
Twenty-one years old, teaching.
He was 23 years old and spent two years teaching in Shanghai.
At the age of 24, he started to hype.
Twenty-five years old, with hype fame and hype money to the United States.
Thirty-year-old, announced financing 10 million start-up.
31 years old, become Phoenix news client news lead pen.
Thirty-two years old, got a green card.
At 33, after meeting many frogs, she finally met her prince and got married.
Relying on their own efforts, all the way in laughing, cursing, step by step, in the hardships of the Feng sister, living off a capital inspirational life. He he。 Nothing, poor people so step by step, difficult ah! She wrote that in Weibo.
Now Feng is better off than most of us. She got the life she wanted and realized her dream: the American Dream. In response to an interview with the New York Times reporter, she said her understanding of the American Dream is that everyone is equal and free. America has always been my ideal. In a sense, Feng is a success.
10 years a dream, wake up only to discover, when I, you to Feng sister abuse and ridicule, after we do not look at Feng sister, we are unexamined visitors! We are the ant in the vast sea of people. Ah, a sigh: young do not understand Yufeng sister, understand is not confused year.
Ten years, Feng sister with her life perfect interpretation of another realistic example of the American dream. Naturally, some say that America is the paradise of the rich and the hell of the poor. I don't think hell is far from heaven. What connects them is what they call the American Dream. Feng uses her efforts to tell us: have a dream, continue this dream, you can realize this dream.
Life is so short, you plan to take your full strength, full of wisdom, and return to Rip? Therefore, we should bless Miss Feng and encourage her; she is a role model for us small potatoes who are not willing to be mediocre.
How do you comment on Miss Feng?
The following is the full text of Luo Yufeng: wishing for Blessing and encouraging:
"you have to admit your life, this is your life."
I don't know why. Recently, I always thought of my mother's words in my head. She was a very traditional Chinese rural woman. She told me to admit her life. Now I think it's also for my own good. Although my mother does not know that there is no hope, there is no disappointment, but the hardships of life have long taught her this truth. She told me to admit her life, but in fact, it was for my own good.
As a child, she really didn't expect much from me. When she was young, she just wanted me to take care of my sister; when she grew up, she just hoped that I would not be embarrassed at home, not to go to high school to go to normal school; I can be a country teacher, can earn hundreds of dollars a month salary, be able to send some money to go home already met her all expectations of me; So for a long time, she couldn't understand why I chose to quit my primary school at Fengjie to work in Shanghai, not to mention what happened after that. "she hasn't been stimulated before, and I don't know why it happened." That's what my mom told reporters.
In fact, I was not stimulated.
The family is very poor, the life is very bitter, the family of five people only seven centimeters, I have hated God why let my family so poor, but I never blame my mother, my stepfather has no ability, on the contrary, I am very grateful to them, even if it is so difficult, They also do their best to study for me, still remember when I read QiShiShi, stepfather in Qijiang cement factory to work. I went to him every month to get 150 yuan for my living expenses. One day I went to him and they said your father was pouring coal inside. I went in and saw Dad, dressed very dirty, pushing a car full of scum, cement factory air was very muddy, noise was very loud, Dad came out to get me living expenses. This scene often appears in my mind, in my dreams.
People say that if a person begins to frequently annoy the decisions he made in the past, he begins to think, "if I was at that time. Then maybe now. " It means that this man is getting old; I find that I am getting old now, and I have thought more than once what I would do today if I hadn't left school at that time; I did regret my decision when I saw all of my fellow students in HKIEd turn into Sunshine Party. Sometimes when I think of myself crossing the sea to the United States for such a long time, I am also depressed, irritable, and even regretful, wondering if my original decision was really stimulated by some kind of stimulation.
But every time I broke up the road I had gone through over the years, I crumpled to think that my decisions were not really because I had been stimulated, I just didn't accept my orders.
Yes, just not willing to accept his life.
I grew up living in Yangducun, a wall is Chongqing Iron and Steel Company Qijiang Iron Mine. The children of the employees of the state-owned enterprises are dressed and dressed, and their manners are completely different from those of the rural people, and they are exquisite everywhere; compared with them, the children of our Yangdoo villages are everywhere, and the children of heavy steel express their contempt for us with the words of "rural dolls"; Although they don't think of us, but we, at least me, want to be them very much, because at that time I thought that the children of the workers were more beautiful than the children of the countryside, and their academic achievements were better than those of the children of the countryside. Family conditions are richer than rural children (that's all, I was right when I was a kid). Only my family is very poor, there is no way to buy me beautiful clothes, beautiful stationery, I can only think that if I study well, love to read, maybe they will accept me, I can also become one of them, the facts later educated me, I am still naive, this is the first time I feel a strong frustration, when I was only a middle school student.
When I was at HKIEd, I was very lucky to get to know the Internet and also to write poems. I began to know that Haizi, Gu Cheng and Borges. At that time, I seldom associated with my classmates, mainly with the poetry friends of the forum. Modern poetry is not only a hazy dream, but also let me have a dream of "I became them"; One time in Chongqing, I went to a party of poetry friends, and when they invited me to a KFC, in the middle of the meal, they told me that they had a treat, and that they had something to do with it, so they had to go.
"Fantasy (my pen name at that time), you eat slowly ha, let's go first."
I would say that those poetic friends were good people, and they saw my dilemma (I was working and studying in college and earning 150 a month) without letting me AA, I brought $100 for the party; It's just that reality once again tells me that writing poetry doesn't mean "I can be them", nor does it mean I have a boyfriend. This strong frustration has always accompanied me to work in Fengjie school. Stimulated by this incident, at that time I was a little cynical, I had vowed to stand out, must be a decent city people.
Fengjie school is in fact not bad, is that the place is very poor economy, spicy gluten can serve as a dish, but compared to my home, in fact, it is not bad. Salary income is actually OK, I just don't want to live like this, I just want to be "them" very much. "Luo Yufeng's mother is cooking in a shabby little shack. There was no light in the house. The stove was made of clay and brick, filled with pig food in a large iron pot, and a antimony pot on the other side, boiled with clear water and cabbage, without any oil or water. There is a dirty old cat lying on the stove. " This is a sketch of a reporter who came to my house to interview after I asked for a marriage. Let's take a look at it.)
Finally, I made the decision to resign to Shanghai, why choose Shanghai? Just because Shanghai is the most developed city in China. "I think that's it, then I'll go to the most developed cities in China and let you admit that I can be you, too." That's what I was thinking at the time.
On the contrary, when I arrived in Shanghai, I found that with my academic background and my conditions, I had only been a migrant worker in Shanghai all my life, if I did not come to Shanghai, I would not be able to become a decent person in the city. On the contrary, when I arrived in Shanghai, I found out that with my academic background, my condition, I had only worked in Shanghai all my life. I have never been as depressed as I was in Shanghai. For the first time in my life, there was a voice in my heart telling me, should it be time to admit my life? Fortunately, the strong desire in my heart counteracted my frustration and even inspired me to fight.
Later things were known, I was married, overnight, I burst into red.
Although there was a lot of online abuse at that time, in fact, my heart was surprised, because I finally had one thing that many people in the city did not have, and I seemed to be able to get their recognition by this kind of thing. And from then on to the peak of life. But the inner thrill soon became a great disappointment and humiliation. At that time, I was kicked out of the school by my alma mater (HKIEd) security guards, and I was impatient to get rid of him and look at him. It seems to have driven away some unpleasant creature.
And at that time, my family didn't understand what I was doing. My mom thought I was being stimulated. My family even blocked me on QQ. I would be scolded on the way, someone would throw eggs at me. It really belongs to me when I wake up.
I want to go to the world's most developed countries, I want to go to the United States! If I prove myself in America, you're wrong to prove that you don't accept me! A lot of people have been asking me why I want to go to the United States. That's why.
Of course, the United States is not heaven. When I arrived in New York, I lived in the basement, there was no heating, the edges of the ground outside the window were always wet, several degrees lower than the horizontal temperature, and I almost didn't freeze to death in winter. When I went out to find a job, I was ridiculed by Chinese compatriots, scolded by my boss in a manicure shop run by Chinese people, and so on. As the domestic media have said, I am also at the "bottom of the society" in the United States.
Although my days in the United States were very difficult and very tired, I felt that I had made the right decision to go to the United States. When I was at home, I was kicked out of the school by the security guards of my alma mater, but when I arrived in the United States, The headmaster of my alma mater used me as an example in his graduation speech to encourage my brothers, brothers and sisters. I was asked to open a column by the media, and many celebrities began to recognize me, such as the famous short, big and tight Gao Xiaosong. For example, many people think that my article is better than Wang Shi's (Weibo) wife Park Tian, and more people think that I am a good writer of modern poetry. I'm the same me, and I didn't just start writing poetics in America. The only thing that changed was the stage.
Gao Xiaosong praises Sister Feng on Weibo
But this is not enough, close to, I can really become "they", no longer "rural children", the poor little is the green card.
I want to get this green card, there is nothing complicated, there is no hidden reason, but since I came to Shanghai, I have been competing with some kind of secret, indescribable, inexplicable rule, and this process has been ten years ago. My youth, the best years of my life are inside, this green card, is to me these ten years account, just like my college diploma.
I just want to get this green card and tell everyone: as long as you don't accept your life, there is no sparrow who can't fly the branches of Phoenix, even if at first low into the dust.
Bless, encourage.