Have you ever experienced a moment like this: a good chat, suddenly a word that touched the heart and tears out of control, and it doesn`t matter what it feels like, living like a walker, no pursuit, There is no fixed time for three meals, and the house is like a pig`s nest.
More often than not lying in the bed, the brain is playing some absurd plot, but they do not want to control the slightest.
Just after August, when the new returnee returned home in a heap, according to a survey by China News website, on the one hand, returnees who just returned home have more or less worries about environmental adaptation and cultural shocks. On the other hand, there is often a lack of specific information about the domestic job search, a little confused about the direction of personal development.
Almost all interviewees will confide in the period when they have just returned home feeling confused.
Many returnees describe this "confused" phase as "nothing to do", "doubt their ability", "feel that it is a waste of money to go abroad," ashamed to mention their experience of studying abroad, "or even" unwilling to go out. "
These depression, long or short, mild or heavy, have caused a great deal of trouble to many foreign students.
1 "I am one in a hundred thousand people who pretended to live abroad."
People who do not know, every year hundreds of thousands of thrown in the study of life, how so affectionate to say that they have depression?
Under the bright and sunny appearance of foreign students, what is the real life like? Free? Let go of yourself? A drunken gold fan?
The answer is simple, not true.
Living alone, happy, sad, and over time, there is a shadow called "depression" behind the back of each student.
"I went to study in Australia when I was a sophomore, and I stayed for nine years.
Last year, when I returned home, I felt that I was a blank sheet of paper, very strange to the domestic living environment, and very narrow social circle. At one point I didn`t want to go out, I didn`t want to socialize, and I didn`t have any interest in what was going on out there. "
"when I first graduated, I was under a lot of pressure. Many of the students around the country have been through school recruitment and online interviews before returning to China, and continuously received the admission notice from domestic employers.
By contrast, I was so slow, I didn`t know where my future was going, and I panicked more and more. On the other hand, my parents` expectations also brought me a lot of pressure and anxiety.
They think I graduated from a famous English school and should soon find a good job. "
"overeating and overeating, hair loss, extreme sleepiness, panic and palpitations, not going out for a week without contact with the outside world, feeling that every day of life is torment, afraid of contact with non-Chinese people, and unable to concentrate on anything. Sometimes crying and laughing.
I think I`m depressed, but I`ve only been in America for two months. "
"when I looked at other people proactive active on Time line Facebook, appeared in various groups of activities, various party, I looked at their hot Time line messages, the heart of a feeling:
Why can`t I be as interested in these things as they are, and so-and-so big people are coming to lecture, all kinds of American festivals?
My heart is sick, but tomorrow there are classes, meetings, so many new technologies and financing, so many push to read, why can`t the world stop? "
"I was just about to say to my mother," can you tell me that even if I don`t do anything, even if I drop out of school and go back home, you`ll still accept me and give me a bite to eat? "
She sent social app:, "Life has no hurdles, you see how hard I used to get through, hard work will be better."
If you try hard, you`ll get better. After so many years of hard work, I finally reached this step.
How ironic. I just want to say that life is not a problem when you are depressed. Life is all over the world, not to mention when studying abroad, it is still lonely. "
But not many of them are understood.
From parents to outsiders, all foreign students in the eyes of all should be the son of heaven. Their Time line will always have beautiful transcripts, places of interest and scenery around the world, lively party and events.
2 "I tried my best but I couldn`t live the way I wanted it to be."
Depression among foreign students has been raised more than once.
People have a lot of misunderstanding about depression, the most common one is that depression is often regarded as "bad mood," and the real depression is that everything in life is good, but I still struggle mentally.
Far away from home, learning life pressure and other factors lead to too much stress, social communication barriers, weak interpersonal relations, and lack of emotional processing ability, international students in the seemingly sunny life, become a high incidence of depression group.
In addition to the above, language, cultural differences, easy to be marginalized, often feel lonely, expectations and pressures from parents and families, the financial burden can also lead to an increased risk of depression "accomplice".
On average, 32 percent of students were diagnosed with depression in the first year, according to the American University Health Association, while Chinese students made it clear that depression had reached 45 percent, and 29 percent said they had anxiety symptoms.
These numbers may seem cold, but all the stories that have been happening over the years are silent resistance to them:
In January 2018, Justin Cheng, a Chinese law student at the University of Bristow in the United Kingdom, committed suicide;
On December 6, 2017, a student surnamed Wang committed suicide at the School of dentistry, University of Toronto;
In October 2017, Tang Xiaolin, a Ph.D. in biology at the University of Utah in the United States, chose to jump to the Golden Gate Bridge to end her young life.
On February 14, 2017, Liu Weiwei, a 20-year-old Chinese female student enrolled in (UCSB) at the University of California, Santa Barbara, was found dead in her dormitory.
In December 2016, Liu Kaifeng, an excellent student at Ohio State University in Tianjin, China, committed suicide at home.
In November 2016, Yang Zhihui, a foreign student from Shanghai, China, committed suicide at the University of Toronto, Canada.
In January 2016, Xiao Lu, a Chinese student at the Booth School of Business at the University of Chicago, committed suicide by jumping ice lake.
On January 27, 2015, Wang Luchang, a Chinese student at Yale University, jumped from the Goldem Gate Bridge into San Francisco Bay to commit suicide.
None of them is loser, none of them has experienced numerous setbacks, but basically all of them are good children who study well, but it is these parents and teachers who are serious good girls and good teenagers, who are on the road of self-destruction.
4 "to each and every returnee who is studying abroad."
If you suspect you have a tendency to depression, be sure to go to a regular hospital for a check-up.
Please be sure to go to the regular hospital for examination. A doctor is someone you can absolutely trust and rely on.
Do not resist taking drugs, moderate exercise, help secrete dopamine to regulate mood.
Regularly go to the school psychology room for guidance, foreign psychology room compared to the domestic professional, your privacy will be well protected.
Speak out. Tell your trusted friends that you are not alone, that someone will understand your situation and be willing to help you.
Local 24-hour psychological hotline:
United States: 1: 8002738255
UK: 44 / 084579090
Canada: 1 / 5147234,000 (Montreal); 1 / 1866 2773553 (outside Montreal)
Australia: 61 / 131114
Japan: 81am 0352869090
Korea: 1577 / 0199 (24 hours, 8 weeks of free counselling, supervision)
We are born human, with the most complex emotions in the world, at the top of the biological chain, destined to experience more hardships, remember that we live for ourselves, live for the future, All the suffering of today is for a bright tomorrow.
"No, push yourself too hard, human beings are vulnerable, and life is never a easy game.. "
Even if you do nothing, I will be eager to give you a hug.
