I spent two full years with my children through the transition of education in China and Australia, and I tried to think about the similarities and differences between them. "I want to divide education into three parts: family education, social education, and school education."
No one can escape any part of these three pieces of education from birth, school, and society, and these three parts are indispensable and indivisible to one`s life.
Do not underestimate Australia, the isolated island country, which is said to be the barbarian land of exiled British robbers, thieves, and hooligans. It has only more than two hundred years of civilization. According to theory, it is not red at all. But people have been standing in the developed world since the 1960s and never left.
What`s more, Australia is the world`s top student in almost all aspects such as scientific research, sports, culture, art, medical care and so on, and there are no partial subjects yet. Don`t forget that until today it only has a population of 24 million, removing the old, the sick and the disabled in proportion. This talent rate is really not the average high, all this must be related to strong education.
home education
Over the past two years, I have reflected most on family education. We Chinese are probably the most important people in the world, but unfortunately we have made education one-sided, narrow-minded and utilitarian, and we have devoted almost all our energy to cultural classes, examination results, and academic rankings. We feel that the score is an indicator of the quality of education, high test scores will cover up a hundred ugliness.
Ask yourself which parents put their children`s mental health, their interests, and their resilience and resilience at the top of the list. How many parents will reflect on the impact of their family education on their children`s lives?
Anyone who has lived abroad for more than a year, I believe, will easily come to a conclusion: "foreigners have a face that has not been bullied, foreign children are very confident, people abroad are very concerned about etiquette." On the contrary, we in China all have a bitter and bitter face. Chinese children and adults generally lack self-confidence, especially in public and in the face of foreigners. "
Compared with the developed countries, we, a civilized country with a history of 5,000 years, generally lack universal etiquette. Why is that? I think the influence of the family is of paramount importance.
There is an old Chinese saying: "the face is born from the heart." A person`s happiness, distress, hatred and other inner feelings can be clearly observed from his or her facial expression, adults may know camouflage, but can pretend for a while, can not pretend for a long time. Therefore, judge a person`s state of mind, look at the face, look at the eye, accurate.
Almost 2/3 of the time children grow up is spent at home with their parents, so the influence of family education and parents will undoubtedly bring great influence to the child. Every move you make as a parent will leave a huge mark on your child`s life.
In our culture, listening to the parents, being beaten by the parents, natural justice, and the independence of the child in such an atmosphere will soon be extinguished.
We like obedient children, we call it "good", do not know that behind this "good" is the elimination of the child`s personality, children unknowingly become only promise, how can we grow up truly confident? We are also determined not to tolerate the child`s insistence when he disagrees with himself, and not to mention the child`s obstinacy, which in many cases is called "the wings are hard, not to be taken care of."
But we do not know that behind this is the lack of parental dictatorship and family democracy, so let us not complain that we Chinese people in the face of international competition in the habitual adversity.
Do we always consciously treat our children as "private property"-"you are born to me, you have to listen to me", and we never think that is wrong? We will never reflect on the fact that we have never given our children "respect". Imagine, during the period when values were built, there were 2/3 children who were under pressure, and how could they have a relaxed face and a face that had not been bullied? This is the bitter fruit of our family education for ourselves and for future generations, and I am very pessimistic about it, and even if everyone is now aware that not a few generations will really change.
Australian parents are surprisingly patient with their children. For more than two years, I only saw a young father whispering at his three-year-old son on the street. All I see are loving companionship and merciful equal dialogue.
Some people will say that our Chinese parents will also be patient, and not all criticism. But in contrast, 365 days a year, we are 360 days of criticism, five days of encouragement, and Australia`s parents are 360 days of patience, encouragement, and five days of reprimand. Think of which child will frown and which will laugh.
I once wrote an article, "We never really learned to encourage." to this day, I still think we`re not doing enough to encourage this thing, or that we don`t know how to encourage our children at all. Naturally, we have the ability to criticize and criticize, and we are untaught. "if you are more serious, you can do a better job in the exam." well done today, but. Can be better "this is our usual sentence pattern." Encouragement, especially encouragement and praise from the heart, "is really a gap in our culture, so it is difficult for us to develop truly confident children because, in the eyes of our parents, we are never the better ones, and, Even if you have done your best, Chinese parents will point out that there is a better one in the distance.
Australians will always do everything they can to find a child, intentionally or unknowingly, to light it up. We in China, on the contrary, are born with a gift of finesse, as our parents are born with. Always pick bones in the eggs to find the child`s shortcomings, but can not see any of the advantages of the child.
What`s more, we always have a "child of other people" in our mouths to make a comparison, and only better than the good, and only say, "you see something is more sensible than you, the grades are much better!"
Whether they are in Singapore, Hong Kong, Taiwan, or living overseas for a long time, we, as parents, are still quite different in encouraging our children, being patient with them, speaking with cold violence, and cultivating children`s self-confidence. But even more distressing is that the vast majority of us have not yet realized or never acknowledged it.
Social education we often say, society is a melting pot, is a touchstone. The influence of society on minors must not be ignored. What is more, if this society appears morbid, even if the family and school education are as normal as usual, the formation of values will also bring about a potentially fatal influence on the outlook on life of minors.
The social education is very broad, when the child walks out of the family, she (he) is faced with the education and influence that society gives him (her). Personally, Australian society as a whole is very positive.
Encouragement and tolerance
Australians never stink at smiling, encouraging, helping and forgiving strangers in public. We can always feel the warmth of strangers in the opposite smile, and the world is no longer cold.
We never have to worry about our difficulties, we will fall and no one will help you, because almost everyone around you will stop and give you a hand. When we become the focus of attention, no matter what we do, good or bad, Australians use the phrase "Good"
Job” “Well done”
Come and give you high five, give you encouragement, no one can not feel the power of the palm from strangers. This kind of social influence, like a seed planted in everyone`s heart, one day, it will sprout and grow, then blossoms and spread out.
Respect and individuality
Often thinking, why can there always be a lot of strange people and strange things abroad, and one after another? When I take root in this land, this society gives me the answer: everyone has a unique personality and respect allows it to be released freely.
In Australia, you can see a lot of people with disabilities, free, confident lives, working in every corner of society, but you can`t see how people look at them. You can do whatever you like without worrying about what others think of you. Not everyone can get high marks, go to college, and not everyone is willing to follow the road of study. Some people can`t read books, but they are naturally fond of doing carpentry. This society provides you with everything to respect. Protect everyone`s innate talent, so you don`t have to worry about it, so everyone can make the most of it.
This society makes people understand that everyone is different, teaches people to respect each other, so you don`t care about other people`s eyes, your personality will shine.
Movement and art
Australia is a country that is very keen on sports and art. However, on weekends and after school, Australian parents will take their children to various sports, and all kinds of sports have a huge mass base in Australia. At the same time, sound sports systems support the nation`s body, so it`s easy to understand why a country of just 20 million is at the top of the list of sports.
Australians are also very enthusiastic about all kinds of arts. Basically, everyone is learning one or two musical instruments or art forms from a small society. If they are interested, they will last for life. Therefore, throughout Australia, various folk arts associations can be seen in endlessly. And very high standards, the general public have a very high level of average artistic appreciation.
Do not simply think that sports are just physical exercise, exercise unknowingly experienced the child`s tenacity, perseverance and anti-percussion ability. Don`t think that learning music, art is just for one more skill, art, music brings you physical and mental pleasure in many times can help you through the thorny life.
Equality and justice
Centuries of social evolution and democracy and human rights have brought equality and justice to Australia, where there are no privileges, so even if everyone`s starting point is not the same, it can provide everyone with as much room for equality as possible.
You don`t need to cling to power, and that`s no use, because the power in the hands of the powerful is uncertain and constantly watched by millions of eyes, and you don`t need to be flattered, and that`s not necessary. Because this place is born and equal, the constitution vows to defend your rightful rights as a human being.
So, as much effort as you can, you get as much money as you can. As much as you use your head, you`ll make as much money as you can. It is said that Australian blue-collar workers (builders, electricians, plumbers, etc.) earn a high hourly salary, but do you have to understand whether you can bear their hard work? It is said that as a doctor in Australia, lawyers earn a lot of money, but you also have to understand that they survived the night, did you want to try?
Therefore, this fair and just society teaches people "to suffer behind their backs if they want to stand out before others." therefore, people will not envy and hate the rich, and they will not follow the crowd. This society allows people to have peace of mind and contentment and happiness. sing while drinking。
schooling
In fact, this is the real education in the hearts of the Chinese people. We ignore the "family education" and "social influence". We only pay attention to the "school education".
If you have a detailed understanding of Australia`s primary, secondary, and university education, you will find that the students here are not at all relaxed, but will only be more stressed than Chinese children.
The big difference is that Australia`s education focuses on making enough reserves for children`s lives, while China`s education focuses on one college entrance examination rather than the whole life.
Primary schools in Australia are basically playing, but they are not fooling around aimlessly. They let children play happily at the age they should play, learn a little bit with little pressure, and, more importantly, let their children like to go to school in a subtle way. Reading and the most basic way to learn is reading. Primary school also does one thing: let every child learn public expression and communication, a skill that runs through life.
For six years in Australia`s secondary schools, it takes three full years for each child to find out where he or she is interested, and then either choose to go to a technical school to learn specific skills (such as a vocational training institution such as TAFE,VET). You can either dig deep into your interests and go into college. Take a look at what you learned in the first three years of high school. Every child has to choose music, art, food processing, film and television production, clothing design, carpentry, mechanical processing, art appreciation, sports, mathematics, science and so on, all of which are required courses in the syllabus. Some private schools will have more choices on this basis.
Its purpose is twofold.
One is to spend three years giving children all the basic life skills they need in their future lives;
Second, it takes three years for each child to discover his or her hobbies and focus on the follow-up study.
So there will never be a college kid in Australia who doesn`t have a "tomato scrambled egg", nor will he or she wake up his or her parents in the middle of the night just to ask for a recipe.
Australian universities, where graduate students pursue a broad approach and a relatively easy entrance to college (although only 35% of senior high school students choose to pursue their studies), have to be delaminated if they want to graduate. If compared to university exams, China`s exams are actually much easier, more just need to memorize, and Chinese universities are also commonly used to draw the key points before the examination, but do a bit of brain, hard work, the examination is not a problem.
But at the University of Australia, postgraduate exams are not so simple. Most of them are open-paper exams. The papers are sent to you and you are given two weeks to hand in the papers. You will find that even if thousands of miles of thousand fathom are given the answer, you will not find the answer. One thing you can do is to fully integrate what you have learned, and at this point you will find out how important it is for reading and writing to be cultivated at an early age.
In short, education in Australia is more about infusing culture with children, while China focuses only on knowledge. Australian education tries to give children a life-long weapon. Chinese education is only responsible for sending children through the college entrance examination.
So as a result, our education is basically stagnating after entering college, and almost all children are tired of reading, because the pressure they bear when they are teenagers needs to be released, and at this point, parents don`t choose to let go of it. Because they believe in "sending you to college, my job is done," because they think, "you`re an adult, the future is up to you," and the children of the future will find out how cruel it is to understand: you love me, you take care of me. You`ve been holding me all the time, you won`t even let me try to take a small step, but one day, you suddenly say, you grow up, you should fly. "
But have you ever thought: you cut off my wings, but blame me for not flying? "
And Australia`s education has developed children`s life skills early, protected their self-confidence, respected their personality, and made their children deeply rooted in the understanding that "no one can help you in your life, your destiny is in your own hands". "everyone has a different gift, no need to compare, a good self is happy," so we can see that every Australian has a face that has not been bullied.
Education is sometimes a very complicated subject, and sometimes it is very simple. We must not be kidnapped and bewitched by articles that preach the "conspiracy theory of western education." They will wishfully tell people that "Western education unwittingly completed the social stratification."
"I want to tell these people, in fact, social stratification is bound to exist where there are people, because everyone has a different starting point, a different talent, a different effort after tomorrow, but as far as education is concerned, Constrained by the ubiquitous privileges and the uneven resources of public education and the resulting openness of educational corruption, it is no exaggeration to say that in Australia, education in China is extremely unfair as a result of the fact that education is extremely unfair. Poor children can enjoy a high-quality 10-year compulsory education, but in China, poor children have been completely blocked up in such a system.
In the end, we want a child to have a good life, so it is not enough for him or her to take the exam. What is needed in life is education that most should teach children`s wealth, such as self-confidence, respect, survival skills, etiquette, self-cultivation, and self-confidence, respect, survival skills, etiquette, and self-cultivation. Communication skills, and these, unfortunately, China`s education has been repeatedly ignored, and these are precisely the truth of Australian education.
