Parents are a very professional job, but many of our parents are not professional. It has to be amazing to see the summary of German mothers in educating their children! For German mothers, it is better to look than to shout a broken throat; the rules are greater than doting, and the teaching is more important than words.
Let`s take a look at 62 German rules on German mothers` job descriptions, teach self-disciplined children, and reflect on how much we have done.
From "Mother Germany teaches self - discipline ".
Ability outweighs achievement: make a child an independent, complete individual
Children are not accessories to their parents, let alone relay to their unfulfilled dreams. If you want to educate a good child, you should first treat the child as an independent individual and a complete person.
Rule 1: children like flowers are also like big trees, need to take care of more experience! Dead knowledge and living ability are all learning!
Rule 2: not only to study well, but also to have strong abilities, pets are the best teachers to teach children to love life, pay love and animals to get along, is a kind of learning.
Rule 3: can get along with animals from an early age, grow up to get along with others, have a soft heart, care for weakness, kindness is more valuable than gold! Take care of a life that is weaker than yourself.
Rule 4: design different endings for stories, train logical thinking skills, and use your head to overcome difficulties and solve them.
Rule 5: learn politeness from the table, educate children anytime, anywhere, and cultivate children`s etiquette.
Rule 6: letting go is the first lesson to learn independence! If you can do it yourself, you will not accept the help of others.
Rule 7: don`t do more for children, but "let" children do it.
Rule 8: environmental protection, not just slogans! Start from life, let children know how to care for the environment, protect natural environmental protection education, start from daily life.
Rule 9: Trust your child`s feelings and judgment and don`t substitute your own experience for your child`s feelings.
Teaching by example is more important than teaching by words: it is better to look like than to shout a broken voice
Parents ask their children to do so, they must do it first, otherwise they have no right to ask their children to do so.
Rule 10: no matter how rich you are, you should avoid unnecessary waste. Educate your child to say that unnecessary spending is waste! A few dollars is a waste!
Rule 11: reading is the basis for children to form an independent personality.
Rule 12: if you fall, stand up yourself! The first step in charge is to tell the child: it`s your responsibility! If something goes wrong with the child, he should be responsible for it.
Rule 13: set an example: follow the rules, starting from crossing the road to run a red light is a small matter? Small things must lead by example! When parents sit upright, the children are upright.
Rule 14: one minute or one second is late, German families teach punctuality like this! Apologize to the child for being a minute late! For the sake of their children, parents must learn to be punctual.
Rule 15: do what you say! Keep your word to the child, but not casually, mom, you don`t mean what you say. Only when parents keep their words will the child keep his word.
Rule 16: being a regular in the library is the most romantic upbringing, opening the door to knowledge for children.
Rule 17: wonderful music at home is the best way for children to like music. If parents like it, children will like it.
Rule 18: only by having a harmonious family atmosphere can we teach peaceful children not to sow the seeds of violence in their hearts.
Respect is better than authority: no derogation, no indulgence, so that children can grow up naturally.
It is the common wish of all parents to hope for Jackie Chan, but many parents impose their ideas on their children and teach them regardless of whether their self-esteem is hurt.
Rule 19: love is invincible! If you love a child, let him know that I didn`t pick it up. Does mom love me? Love should say it out loud and let the child know.
Rule 20: condescending, loud reprimand, lack of patience, will only make the child full of pressure, treat the child as an individual, treat each other equally, and respect each other.
Rule 21: do not interfere, encourage more, let children learn on their own.
Rule 22: even if a child makes a mistake, he or she should not be casually reprimanded. The child also has dignity. It is not that the child fails, but that there is something wrong with education!
Rule 23: children are encouraged to argue with adults.
Rule 24: respect the child`s right to speak, understand what the child thinks, and squat half and look at each other when talking to the child.
Rule 25: love, not hurt, should be given to children. Love and being loved are the most valuable abilities.
Rule 26: respect the love of a child.
Rule 27: the lack of corporal punishment education is incomplete.
It is better to suffer than to eat and make up: moderate suffering is the best exercise for children
Compared with children in other countries, German children are known for their ability to resist setbacks. How do German parents develop their children`s ability to resist setbacks? The tribulations camp is one of their magic weapon that allows children to take part in almost cruel training activities. You may find it cruel to do so, but German parents think it is love for their children. Because, love the child, must let the child know strong.
Rule 28: let the child grow up in the collision, not in the care of the growth, hone the child`s extraordinary courage and courage, in order to protect themselves!
Rule 29: it is harm, not love, that children are not allowed to do housework! Let the child realize that there is nothing to gain for nothing in the world.
Rule 30: let children understand the dark side of society and learn to protect themselves.
Rule 31: German hunger education: if you don`t eat well, you have to starve!
Rule 32: adult gift for children, try traveling alone!
Rule 33: children have ten shortcomings, parents should be responsible for five of them, affirm their children`s strengths, and don`t forget to review their shortcomings.
Rule 34: let the child suffer more and will not suffer when he grows up.
Rule 35: a small amount of clothing can keep warm, a large amount of clothing is a burden.
Rules are greater than dotes: tolerance without connivance, and establishing rules is more effective than preaching
How can we effectively educate children? Many parents continue to preach, but smart German parents make rules for their children and make their children aware of them from an early age. They negotiate with their children, make rules, and ask them to abide by them.
Rule 36: when you make the rules, you have to stick to them. Let the children act in accordance with the agreement, which is the key!
Rule 37: what the child can do on his own, parents should not help.
Rule 38: only when parents agree with their words and deeds will their children abide by the rules. There are two principles for the treatment of children: three chapters of the law in advance and no compromise after the event.
Rule 39: establish the concept of "can and cannot, can and not".
Rule 40: there is no absolute fairness in society, only rules and order.
Rule 41: if parents break the rules, the child will despise the rules.
Rule 42: politeness is not born, but is nurtured. No one makes a mistake by being polite.
Raising is better than captivity: this is not good, that is not accurate, how to teach a good child
In the eyes of parents, every child is a seed, and is bound to become a big tree. In the process of growing into a big tree, gardeners must make great efforts, such as cultivating children`s self-care ability, cultivating children`s good character and habits, giving children encouragement, cultivating their own self and taking the initiative to strive for the spirit of expression, and so on.
Rule 43: educate children to be independent and generous.
Rule 44: cultivate good habits, you can cultivate good character, from small teaching, starting from small things.
Rule 45: tell the child not to haggle about it. Teach children to forgive, forgive others, who is right and who is wrong? forgiveness is the answer.
Rule 46: very progressive, a penny is progress, son, you are not stupid, just have not learned.
Rule 47: encourage and be sure to grow up with rain and sunshine, cultivate self-awareness, and teach children: be their own master!
Rule 48: if a child says "no" loudly, he should be happy, encourage him, dare to express his ideas, and dare to refuse the request of an adult.
Rule 49: don`t confuse modesty with self-expression. Let children learn to express themselves, convey enthusiasm, and teach children to stand up, sing, and speak.
Freedom is greater than restriction: only by giving children independent space can development be infinite.
In the eyes of German parents, each child is an independent individual. They are neither attached to nor dependent on parents. They have their own independent space, but also have independent thinking. Therefore, German children are mostly self-independent development as the goal of growth. As a parent, as long as the child is given free space.
Rule 50: see the characteristics of your own children, but also see the characteristics of other children, remember! Each child is unique, comparing the advantages and disadvantages of the two children will make the child lose himself.
Rule 51: do not compare the shortcomings of the child with the advantages of other children, degrade the child, will let the child`s self-confidence to zero! Don`t belittle children, but encourage them to learn from others.
Rule 52: avoid parent-led methods of education, avoid comparative methods of education, follow personality, children should also be taught according to their aptitude, different children need different educational programs
Rule 53: give children more free space, learn to be responsible for themselves, parents peek at their children`s diary, is tantamount to violating children`s freedom! Close to nature, raise children, more open horizons!
Rule 54: children should be kept in captivity.
Rule 55: think before making a decision, be responsible after making a decision, let the child make his own decision, make his own responsibility, let the child decide for himself, and cultivate his own opinion.
Self-control is better than control: from an early age, the concept of financial management is established and children are taught to save the first bucket of gold.
Germans are rich, but absolutely not extravagant, so the average annual consumption in Germany is not very high, mainly due to German parents` financial education of their children from an early age. With this education, German children have developed a very good financial habit since they were young: not spending pocket money, at any time to save money at any time, even when playing games.
Rule 56: instead of giving more money, learn how to use it.
Rule 57: second-hand market collective inspection, let children learn trading common sense, hold children`s thrift market, let children experience the process of buying and selling.
Rule 58: waste in the game, in real life, too. "do you know what the price of a missile is?" To play games, we should also grasp the opportunity education!
Rule 59: have your own account, deposit your own pocket money, to open a bank account for your child, and learn to plan money from an early age.
Rule 60: Let the child know that the extra money belongs to the parents.
Rule 61: think clearly before you buy something, take your child to the bank to save money, feel the atmosphere of saving, learn to control your desire, and tell your child that you have to consider every penny you spend! Tell the child: spending money is the indulgence of desire!
Rule 62: when you are a child, you don`t know how to be frugal when you grow up. The key to taking your children to the bank is not how much money to save, but a sense of saving.
