There was a picture that went all over the Internet,
"I left last night, leaving with a calm heart."
In a residential area of Nanjing, an 81-year-old single man was found dead at home more than two months after his death, and a suicide note was next to him.
On the morning of December 21, neighbors passed by the hallway to smell the stench coming from the old man's house, saw the bill of payment by the electricity supply bureau in front of the old man's door, and remembered that he had not seen the old man for more than two months, and he called the police when he felt something was wrong.
The police arrived at the scene and called the locksmith to open the three doors, which smelled like a stench. Behind the bedroom door, the police found the old man's body, which had rotted.
It can be seen from her space that she has overtaken herself.
And as a child, if their parents died in this way, can you bear it?
"empty nest": overseas Chinese parents at the bus stop "adoption" note, pay someone to support themselves. It's sad..
And the empty nest of overseas Chinese parents is not the first time to mention it.
The Washington Post, which reports the story of an empty-nest old man, makes people sad.
As a member of millions of elderly Chinese, Han Zicheng, 85, from Tianjin, lives alone.
Life twists and turns, born in 1932, experienced the anti-Japanese war, civil war, the cultural revolution, the old Han generation or traditional ideas, old and happy to live with their children, family reunion.
Even if not rich, rich and expensive, the family is happy, it will be enough.
But the children have their own pursuit of life, Lao Han also do not want to delay them, because he gave the children trouble, choose a person to live.
But after the old wife left, the child was abroad. Every day, Lao Han was surrounded by fear of dying alone in bed.
He posted a "adoption" note at the bus stop.
"A lonely old man in his eighties is strong, he does his own shopping and cooking housework, does not have any chronic diseases, retires in the Tianjin scientific research institute, has a pension of 6000 yuan per month, does not go to a nursing home, craves the charity and the loving person and the family adopt me for the rest of the life. After death, do not ashes, only for the rest of life good treatment, young students, working young and young people have a good love can. "
In December 2017, after he posted an ad for adoption at the bus stop, a video website came to interview him and filmed his story. The video was immediately broadcast on the Internet, and his phone didn't stop for months.
Everyone, under the care of their parents, pulled up their hands,
If we can't even rely on them when our parents are old, we have to put up flyers, videotape, find strangers for warmth, and seek a home.
Don't you feel guilty?
(home of Lao Han)
But old Han can only accept all this..
To his dismay, he found it too difficult to find a satisfied family.
And then came the news of Lao Han's death, March 17, 2018, he died.
His neighbors and neighborhood committee knew nothing of his death.
It took them two weeks to get the information, astonished.
His neighbors knew nothing but that he had not been in the hallway for a long time, not to mention to see him.
Han Chang, his beloved little son, flew back from Canada after his father died.
To Lao Han's death, he stressed: my father is not really alone, he is just old. This can happen everywhere.
Before Lao Han died, the living room had a wedding photo of his youngest son
Han Chang said he called an acquaintance when he found out he might be dying. His greatest fear was to die alone at home, when he was found rotting to the bone.
He didn't ask much, the only hope was that he would be taken to the hospital. When his heart stopped beating, he died in his own right.
Jia Pingao: filial piety should be performed as soon as possible.
For all overseas Chinese, the maintenance of parents is actually a difficult problem.
In fact, everyone also has their own reasons: ticket back home is too expensive, work can not spare time, children reading, their families are busy.
However, it is not until the real loss that all these problems are irrelevant.
It is only when it is truly lost that it is true that it is precious.
Jia Pingao's article, written to his mother, tells the pain everyone will experience with his real experience.
Tell everyone, time does not leave people, please cherish the present.
When a man is alive, it is only a lot of things, regardless of day or night, when a man dies, she heaps up; and in twenty days, my mother will be three years old.
Three years ago, every time I sneezed, I had to say, "who's thinking about me?" My mother likes to joke, then says: who wants to think, mother thinks! In these three years, I sneeze a lot, often miss the meal time, stay up too long, want to sneeze, sneeze a dozen, then think of my mother, believe that my mother is still worried about me.
When I was writing, I could hear my mother calling me very realistically, and I was used to turning my head to the right when I heard the cry. Once upon a time, my mother sat on the bedside of that room on the right, and as soon as I wrote, she stopped moving and kept quiet, but she looked at me for a long time, and she would call me, and then she said, "can you finish writing the words in the world?" Out and around. Now, every time I hear my mom call me, I put down my pen and walk into that room, thinking that my mom came to Xi'an from Dihua? Although there was nothing in the room, she had to stand for half a day, muttering to herself that my mother had come and went out to the street to buy me my favorite green and spicy food and turnips. Perhaps, she was teasing me and deliberately hiding in the picture of her hanging on the wall. I will give the picture in front of the incense stove incense, to say: I am not tired.
My mother is an ordinary woman, entangled, uneducated, domiciled in the country, but my mother is so important to me. It had been a long time, of course, not to be afraid of her illness, but I went far away, and no one was whispering about it again, and I had good food and drink, and I did not know who to give it to.
At home in Xi'an, in the room where my mother lived, I did not move a piece of furniture, everything was restored to the same pattern, and I never saw my mother again and again, and I said to myself, again and again, that my mother was not dead. She is living back in the country. It was so wet and hot this summer that I woke up wet and hot every night, and suddenly thought it was time to change my mother's room to a new air conditioner. It should be cool to wake up and soothe my mother's new residence in the country.
As soon as the third anniversary day was near, the customs of the country were to be held at a ceremony, and I went back to the flower with the incense and fruit of the candle. But once Dihua, going to the grave, reality tells my mother is dead, I am on the ground, she is underground, Yin and Yang separation, difficult to see each other, immediately tears raging, long cry ah.
"when a man is alive, it is only a lot of things, regardless of day and night, when a man dies, he heaps up."
"at home in Xi'an, in that room where my mother lived, I did not move a piece of furniture, everything was restored to the same pattern, and I never saw my mother again and again, and I said to myself again and again that my mother was not dead. She is living back in the country. "
"it has been a long time, of course, that I am no longer worried about her illness, but I am far away, and no one has been whispering in such a way that I have good food and drink, and I do not know who to give it to."
This regret of regret, I hope everyone do not have.
Mother's Day is about to come. It is more practical to call and care about mothers than they do in moments.
"everyone can only walk with you for a while, and sooner or later they will have to be separated."
Our parents can only walk with us for a while, no exception.
Why not choose to cherish this road?