Before the Chinese baby was a year and a half years old, grandpa, grandmother, babysitter and mother were brought at home full-time, and I had to help when I came home from work.
The whole family is busy all day. And around relatives and friends, the family is this pattern.
Why are we so inefficient in bringing up our children? "
My experience in Australia tells me the answer:
When she had just graduated from college and had not rented a suitable house, she had stayed at the house of the Australian boss for a period of time, and the Australian boss was alone with her five-month-old baby, and saw the Australian-style baby-carrying method at close range.
This precious experience has been of great help to me, who is now alone. The way I bring up my children and the products I use are mostly learned from my boss's mother. Later, I worked in Sydney for two years, and also met several senior or novice Australian mothers to varying degrees, usually with two to three children on my own.
After I gave birth to the baby myself, my mother-in-law, mother-in-law and babysitter took care of the family most of the time. Now I think it is a disaster (many opinions, serious internal friction. This person puts something in one place, another person needs to use it can not find, the same reason, another person used up, and other people want a new round of ah, ah.
At that time, I was lying in bed watching my house in a mess, and everyone was exhausted. I wish I could get better right away. After giving birth to the baby, I came into contact with a number of mothers who gave birth at the same time. Both parents-in-law or babysitter were helping to take care of the baby and did not take care of their own children.
Combined with what I have seen and what I have learned, I sum up as follows:
Australian mothers take care of their children and liberate themselves with a variety of meticulous and efficient products
1. Diaper fart cream
There are old people in my family when the baby naked buttocks, the child has to change about 10 times a day, which involves handling shit urine, washing clothes and changing clothes, spend a lot of time, and the process of changing clothes is easy for the baby to catch a cold. We use diapers without the old man to save time and effort.
2. All kinds of vegetable mud, fish mud, meat mud
I made pumpkin mud and carrot mud several times in the early days of adding supplementary food to my children. It took a lot of time. The elderly people in the family liked to make Egg Custard for their children, and the result was just that my baby was allergic to egg yolk. I made great efforts to discuss (the family insists that industrial products have additives) and began to give supplementary food to the baby. This was what I saw when I saw my Australian boss give food to my eldest son, who is now 8 years old and is healthy, lively and intelligent. If there was an adverse reaction, it would have been obvious.
3. Infant dining chai
Before buying a dining chair, my old man is one person holding the child another person to feed, catch up the child does not like to eat, still have to catch a person to tease again, the middle child snatches the bowl also will scatter all over the body is, also wants to change clothes to wash clothes!
After using the dining chair, quickly formed the habit, the baby once on the chair knew to eat, and the dining chair safely restricted the baby's activity space, let her eat.
4. Bi
The baby's bib can effectively hold all the dregs and milk, reducing the number of times a child changes his clothes and washes them.
5. Safety fence mats. Kids are really interested in safe toys.
When you bring up your children, you have to clean up the room and so on. When you need to leave, you put the baby in the safety fence. If the baby is not brought up by a large group of people all the time, it will not be super clingy. I can play on my own for about half an hour or more.
6. Relieve baby long tooth pain paste gutta molars
Long teeth baby day and night are very difficult to wear, especially entangled people easily cry, a person to bring to collapse at any time, with this product, let the long tooth period baby sleep more stable at night.
7. Baby strap strolle
Take the children to travel on their own rely on these two good products. The country's large and inappropriate urban planning and public facilities do not take care of mothers who travel alone with their children. There are hospitals, supermarkets, commercial centers and kindergartens within a half-hour's walk from my home, so I'm not too restricted to take my children out alone.
All of the above products were used by the Australian boss before I saw them, and I also use them now. I think it is very helpful to the baby and the mother who brings the baby alone.
In addition to taking care of children, it takes a lot of time to do housework, selling a variety of cheap semi-finished foods (pasta and sauce, semi-finished salads) at the Australian washing machine vacuum cleaner supermarket. Semi-finished pizza) and all kinds of takeout, all of which are in housework and cooking for themselves fully emancipated mother.
Like a domestic team bringing up children, buying food for the team, cooking and washing dishes also takes up a labor force. The old man also likes to insist on hand washing children's diapers and so on, together with the above-mentioned food and drink frequently changed clothes, which is absolutely enough for a person to wash the axis of a day.
Australian mothers will form a daily pattern for their babies early and early. Science has a principle zone, baby.
My boss is very regular in feeding her baby every day, especially if she has a very regular pattern before going to bed. She gives the baby a bath every night at 7 o'clock to change her pajamas sleeping bag, and at 07:30, after feeding the baby, everyone says good night to the baby. The mother carried the baby to his room, whispered a few ballads at his bedside, and the baby fell asleep on his own little bed (only 5 months) until dawn came to the end of the day!
Children with good rules of life are very nice to bring, just don't need to sleep and the first night to lighten the burden of too many moms.
On the contrary, my family baby, the old man from the month to take care of the children more, every time the child cried the old man stuffed me breast milk, in fact, now I think many times she does not want to eat milk, sometimes she has to sleep sometimes it is hot and uncomfortable sometimes just afraid, As a result, we are all breastfeeding, on the one hand, there is no rule of feeding, on the other hand, we do not have a good understanding of the needs of our children and develop the habit of
Later, my family woke up frequently at night. After a few months, I was tired until I broke down. During the day, I didn't have the energy to take care of the children. Once I had to rely on the elderly for help, the result was a vicious circle.
Now I am correcting the sleep habits of the baby, and at the same time pay attention to the formation of the rules of daily life, the baby has shown signs of the angel baby, I take her so easy alone!
When it comes to principles, take two examples: all the Australian parents I know come to bed at night, and the baby won't sleep yet. He will still put the baby in their own crib and room and turn off the lights. Even if the baby is crying, it will not be possible for the baby to turn off the lights. So once or twice, the baby would go to bed at a good time.
At dinner point, the baby does not eat well, the mother will not chase behind the buttocks to feed the meal, or this meal is separated, or remember to eat only cold food, so that the baby was responsible for their behavior from childhood.
Domestic old people spoil children to no margin, novice parents sometimes difficult to insist on the principle of parenting. Plus many people in the family, take turns pet, the child will be baby all day, especially easy to be overindulged, unconsciously increase the workload of bringing up children.
Australian moms, independent dads, offer to help social climate
Our generation of novice parents are mostly only children, under the protection of parents more interference, and the consensus of the whole society is that the elderly or babysitters should take care of the children, so young parents half-way to put the responsibility for bringing up children to their parents.
Australians will never move in with their children after marriage, not to mention long-term help to bring up their children. Young parents will actively and passively assume the responsibility of taking care of their children alone.
Australian women can be more unique, I would like to mention that in Australia, young fathers will take the initiative to help mothers do a lot of child care work, such as feeding baby bottles, out of the door is the father carrying the children. In China, most grandparents help to take care of the children, the new father in front of his parents, especially unable to realize their responsibility as a father, if grandparents are in, the new mother will rely on their parents.
Kids, babysitting.
This is a bit like our last generation in China. I once saw a mother on the platform of the Sydney Railway Station, dragging a large suitcase and pushing a baby, with a boy about five years old and a girl about three years old.
Boys and girls are also dragging their little suitcases (which is interesting. I see children dragging their own suitcases every time I take a train in Australia). There is a temporary change in the train, and my mother needs to take care of it at the ticket office inside the station. She told the five-year-old boy to take care of her sister and push the youngest baby away.
In the process of waiting for the girl and her mother to cry so badly, it was the boy who hugged her and kissed her forehead to comfort her. I, ah, who was still unmarried at that time, all lost my heart. I thought that if I had a daughter in the future, I would marry the eldest boy in an Australian family!
Anyway, the Australian moms I know don't always take care of their children as 24x7 does. They usually send their children to their aunt's house or invite them to take care of their children every week or every other day for a few hours a week or every other day. I appreciate enjoying the world of husband and wife.
When I left the Australian company to have my son back home, my Australian female boss told me in particular: you will be a mother, you will love your baby, and you will forget that you are yourself or your husband's wife.
For the sake of your own happiness and your husband's happiness, don't forget to spare at least one night or half a day a week for yourself and enjoy the time that belongs to both of you.
It makes sense to think now.