Qin Jiajia, a friend I knew in Shanghai, arrived in Australia two years later. The city she chose to settle in was Perth, a city far from our little circle of friends.
In addition to just arrived in Australia, Qin Jiajia will come to a few calls, gradually, the phone is also less.
One day bought watermelon, home-made watermelon ice cream, beautiful placed in a tall glass, sitting in the backyard swing, leisurely eat, suddenly miss Qin Jiajia.
This is her favorite ice cream.
It's been a long time since Qin Jiajia called.
On, while swinging the swing, dialed her phone.
She seemed to be sleeping on the other side of the phone, with a deep voice and a bad mood. It took more than an hour to talk about it before it gradually became fresh.
Jia mood is low, told me: Australia is too lonely, no friends, parents are not around, she miss Shanghai.
I don't know how to comfort, hometown is forever engraved on the bones of missing, but it should not be because of that miss to deny the present life. Listening to her description, her present life is really monotonous, and she used to be a career girl. She is now living a housewife who eats three meals a day at home, dragging the floor twice a day, and then watching videos. She doesn't have any friends to communicate with every day except for her husband to say a few words after work. I used to make phone calls to friends, but for a long time, I felt that old calls would disturb other people's lives, and even the number of calls gradually decreased. How painful it is when one's life is just eating and sleeping, not even the most basic communication. She felt like she was totally a loser, a walker, and a meaningless life.
I listened for a long time and finally suggested, "you can go to church, every big city in Australia should have several churches, every week there are Chinese classes, or learn English, or learn Bible, you can contact several churches," Choose two suitable for you, twice a week also good. "
Jia did not believe in religion, on the other end of the phone silent, finally promised to try.
I have lived in Melbourne, Sydney, Adelaide, and every city, I will find the right church in the first place, one or two days a week to study. In fact, to learn Bible or English, more is for communication.
Human beings are social animals, and communication is essential. I know a lot of mothers who take their children to school in Australia. They stay away from their husbands, can't work, and spend a lot of time doing nothing but waiting on their children to go to school every day. But the moms I knew were met in church, and every mother was very enthusiastic, full of positively attitude towards life, not as dejected as Jiajia.
About five months later, on the occasion of New Year's Day's long holiday in Australia, she received a phone call from Jia, who seemed to be back in the past. She and her husband were driving all the way from Perth to Melbourne, and they were going through my city. I was also ready to meet my old friend.
Jiajia later told me that she later found two churches, one specialized in English, one specialized in Bible. She met a lot of friends there, and almost every week there were private gatherings, and she brought her husband into them. Some of these people are good cooks, some are horticulturists, and others specialize in fishing and crabs. You can learn a lot with everyone. Now Jiajia has a new goal decided to travel all over Australia for the last two years, and then plan to buy a small coffee shop to do something for herself.
I am glad to see her so positive.
People in a foreign country, the most difficult is the first two years, everything has to start over. When a huge change happens at work, friends, and even the whole life, if we can't overcome it, then whether you end up in Australia or not, it's not the life you originally wanted.
There is an ancient saying in China, "trees move to death, and men move to life." Leave will choose a familiar country, to come to a strange country, the original intention must be because of their expectations of the beautiful. But for a long time to immerse themselves in the world without communication, even if you get what you want, you will definitely lose more.
Expanding your peripheral Time line as soon as possible is the key to coming to Australia!
Author: Li Coco