"on Saturday, I went to the market regularly to buy food, and met my friends and mom to buy fresh meat. He didn't see me. I stopped and looked at them.
"give me a piece of five-flowered meat," my friend told the clerk.
"16.8," replied the clerk.
"Mom, I'll do it. Don't take the money. Oops, Mom. "
"it's okay, I have cash here." The mother was faster than her son to pull out the card and had already paid for it.
I then called a friend, a few simple chat to learn that my uncle landed in Sydney today, to pick up the plane before buying some meat, so as to catch the wind for relatives.
Break up, buy good food, drive home. "
It seems that every time my mother and I go out to buy food or shop, she always wants to pay in cash first. She doesn't apply for a credit card in Australia, and we are used to it, but shop assistants prefer cash.
I realized that it was the sex of all overseas mothers, not their wealth or their appearance.
But。 They love me, protect me, want to help me.
My mother often said that when she arrived in Australia, she felt like the poor, spending nothing, always counting times five, not as tough as living at home, but she wanted to pay for me more when I was around.
Memories, let a lot of things connected together, I suddenly realized.
When choosing to go abroad, my mother's determination must be very difficult to come out to get me out of the comfort of the environment, in a strange country to exercise, this is an option there is no turning back, but she firmly believe that the sole beneficiary of such a choice is me.
My mother wrote me a letter the other day:
In 2000, the night you left me again habitually insomnia, such a day has passed for more than half a year. The day I booked the ticket, I panicked, I couldn't tell you, but I pretended my choice was right when I looked at you looking forward to and happy. I just hope you don't learn bad outside, let alone catch the bad habits of gambling and take drugs. I lowered my request for you because you will leave my side, I want to care about you, but I can't reach it.
Outside the first New year you cry on the phone, I cry here, that is the first time I regret sending you abroad, why? I was reunited during the New year, and my year was ruined by my choice.
I always hope in life, you are my hope. You have learned to report happiness and sorrow, you have learned to hide, know that I can no longer help you, and I said less. Every time I ask you to call me, you rarely think of mom, of course, I will use you too busy to comfort themselves, in fact, mother miss you very much.
Your father has a stupid mouth, but every time he calls you, his ears stand up more straight than anyone else. Let him say, uh-ah, even nervous. I kept every phone card I called you. The other day, I packed the drawers and pulled out a stack higher than the Xinhua dictionary, each of which represented my mother's nervous and trembling hand-dialing phone, and sometimes you were impatient.
Every time you go home on holiday, the family is happier than the New year, planning for 2 weeks to eat, lest you lose your mouth. I don't think you'd like to see your buddies more. When you finally leave, there's some steamed meat that Mom has prepared for you in the fridge. Australia was not allowed to bring meat, and then I was hot and stupefied, and your dad and I couldn't eat either.
You have been abroad for 19 years, my miss has become a habit, I hope you do not choose this life in the future, it is not easy. Two days ago, I didn't want to go to the airport. Every time I thought of you going abroad for the first time, I waved goodbye. Never forget, and do not want to experience, all I can do is to see you out of the gate, waiting for you to secure the safety of the text message.
I didn't pay attention to your studies in those years in Beijing, and the cake left behind by my birthday has become your permanent memory. Now you should be able to understand how Mom was feeling, just as uncomfortable as you were. So I have always been with guilt to contain your shortcomings, you have achievements, but mom has not learned your expectations of encouraging education, praise in the hearts of our older generation is afraid of you proud tail, in fact, we often among colleagues praise you, It's just you don't know. Mom's proud of you, too.
Now that you are older and have your own family, we try our best to ensure that we are healthy without putting a drag on you. We are willing to fly over to help you with your children so that you can work with all your heart and soul. But in fact, we do not like the fact that we do not like it in Australia. The only hope is for the family to drive to the wild and pick up the stove for a slow-down grill.
Parents are actually living children, where the children are, where they are. You can give up your hobbies and focus on taking care of your child or your mother. Parents abroad are just like life sentences, inconvenient to travel, busy with three meals and delivery of grandchildren every day, and even face embarrassment in separating their partners from each other. They didn't complain, only when I annoyed them, it was better to go home than to make breakfast for you the next day.
Sensible, understand, only after separation. But no matter how hard you are, you are still the child they need to take care of. I'm lucky, because my parents are still strong, but I can't keep wasting their energy. She also wants to spend more time with her mother. Maybe the time there is more precious.
Friends abroad, if your parents live with you, don't think you created a good live a retired life environment for them. I once said to let them live in Australia and breathe clean air for at least ten more years, but now think of it as an excuse for me to take care of the grandeur and selfishness of others, and what they get is far less than sacrifice.
See here, should pick up the phone, dial mother's number, tell her: "Thank you for the choice, I miss you very much." "and don't forget to say hello to your father, who has ears on the phone.