Share two stories with you.
There's no way for Chinese doctors, so let's go back to Australia.
At the beginning of this year, Shuangyashan, a small city in Heilongjiang, China, gave birth to a little boy, and he had a nice name called "Daoyu".
Daoyu's father is an Australian citizen who works at home.
Although the birth of the son, parents are happy, but also busy, especially Tao Yu just born, all kinds of examinations should be done.
On the third day of Daoyu's birth, a middle-aged woman doctor examined him with a simple ear hearing tester, and the doctor played gently in his ear in a very skillful manner. "Sir, your child's hearing test didn't pass, but you don't have to worry," she told Daoyu's father in a quiet tone. "you can see that 1/3 of the babies tested today have failed."
How can parents not worry, Daoyu dad hurriedly asked: "Daoyu can be congenital deaf?"
"it's too early to conclude," the doctor replied. "it may take a few days for babies to grow up and hear voices."
So with anxiety to the 42 th day after the birth of Daoyu, the family went to the hospital for post-natal examinations.
Check the results Daoyu's hearing is still a problem!
Or did the doctor seriously ask Daoyu's father, "do you and your wife have hearing problems?"
Daoyu's father suffered from otitis media, but it was not congenital. It was caused by water when he was a child. The wife's hearing is all right.
After Daoyu's father said, the doctor immediately assured that perhaps the child's hearing was inherited from his father's otitis media.
Of course, we think that this is not possible, but the child's hearing is a problem, the female doctor can not give any information, no way, is no way!
(dialogue between editor and Daoyu's father)
Can imagine the parents on the way home what mood, the child can not hear? What shall I do? What happens next?
Slow down the heavy pace, Daoyu's father gave Daoyu's mother a heart-fixing pill.
"although my son was born in China, because I am an Australian citizen and he is also an Australian citizen, the worst plan is to go back to Australia if the son does have a diagnosis."
The wife asked anxiously, "does it work?"
"at least it works better than in China."
Australian nationality is our only Poseidon needle.
Mr Graeme Clark, an Australian professor, invented cochlear implants as early as the 1950s, the world's most advanced device to help deaf patients recover their hearing, and that Australian government was installed free of charge. Dauyu's father is thinking that if his younger son is diagnosed with congenital deafness, he will also be taken care of by Australia's government for the rest of his life. Australian nationality is our only Poseidon needle!
So Daoyu parents methodically take their children to Harbin to find otology experts for examination, on the other side began to apply for a passport for Daoyu, Daoyu father also told the company boss about the situation at home, ready to stop work in China at any time.
Later, fortunately, when the parents were prepared for the possibility that the child might not hear, Daoyu's hearing test passed, perhaps because of premature birth, eardrums have not been developed, leading to a long period of time after birth without hearing. In short, children have a hearing, everyone is happy!
(dialogue between editor and Daoyu's father)
As a bystander may think this is a small matter, but for the sake of others, if you really have to follow the first doctor's meaning, the youngest son has no hearing, there is no way to solve it, there is nothing to do!
And knowing that the price of cochlear implants in China ranges from 16 to three hundred thousand, is it still a trivial matter for a child to have a lifetime hearing problem?
What matters about a child's lifetime can make a father relatively less flustered and less desperate, just because he is an Australian citizen and can at least go back to Australia to give the child as good a condition as possible.
If they are not Australian citizens, they are just ordinary Chinese families, faced with child deafness and doctors who have no solution, or expensive cochlear implants, what do they bring to the family? What is the future of this child?
About staying, about walking, always have to be tangled up and go.
Even if you make a decision, you will never forget it.
The students who stayed in Australia sighed that they had returned to the national cause, and they had only received ordinary salaries in Australia.
Go back to the country will say, stay in Australia will be good, good environment, simple life, not so much pressure at home.
But no matter where, what work, how much money, the most difficult to give up is the affection.
Stay in Australia and let everyone move to Australia with them. Not every family can do it, and it's not realistic for many older families.
After getting the Australian citizen, facing the regret of family leaving, really every time I think of it will have a sore nose.
Grandma died. I'm the only one who can't make it back in Australia.
I chose to stay in Australia after graduation, my family has been living in the country.
Ready to go to work one morning, the phone rang, is the father's voice phone, Australia's early morning, it is not even dawn at home.
There was an ominous hunch to see the call.
When he picked up the phone, his father said in a low voice, Grandma was in critical condition. I sit down, simply understand the situation, dare not think more, hurriedly take leave, apply for a visa back to China, book a ticket.
This is not a foreign country, this is a foreign country.
When you return to your home to apply for a visa, you realize that you are not the only distance away from home.
Visas are not ready immediately, and flights are not always available. All this together with a long 10-hour flight, finally landed, but grandma had left the news to pick me up home.
Grandma tried to wait for her beloved granddaughter to get back to her bed, but when her granddaughter flew in the air, Grandma couldn't stand it.
The whole family was with Grandma, only I couldn't catch up with Grandma from Australia.
The regret, which was silent, was stuck in the heart. Life, illness and death, helpless, but later inadvertently eat steamed egg custard, will remember that this is my grandmother's favorite to do, to shake God, is already tearful.
As you grow up, there will be a separation from your loved ones in the future. But just because abroad, that kind of regret lingers on. Always with you.
If I wasn't an Australian citizen, could I say good-bye to Grandma, or at least let myself not live in guilt all the time. There are many classmates and friends, family members, parents choose not to tell, and so must say that day, parents will helplessly say, "far away, tell you what to do". We receive this kind of news, apart from the sadness of half the earth, more is at a loss of what to do, what can we do?
The people in the city want to go out, the people outside the city want to come in.
Home? Or stay?
This problem will always exist.
No matter which one you choose, you will give up a lot.
Looking abroad, everywhere is good, there is no better.
What do you want? Where do you fit in?