We always think that we are one of the most family-minded and family-friendly races in the world, and we are deeply proud of them, but in the eyes of foreigners, this is not necessarily the case.
My friends in Australia talked about the importance that Chinese and Australians attach to their families. Unexpectedly, the Australian friends said: "Don't be angry, in fact, we don't think you Chinese do not love home, you do not like the family as much as you said. You love money more! " I was surprised, and I wrote down these sincere conversations: "you Chinese are really hardworking, both in Australia and in China, and the Chinese can save more money overseas than the local people," he said. But I don't think that you Chinese have a gift for doing business, but that you are more thrifty, more economical than we are, and that you are accumulating money by lowering your standard of living. You don't usually go to bars, you don't take holidays on weekends, and you don't even take weekends or holidays off. Clothes are bought from China, because Shanghai is cheaper, I even saw Shanghai students bring a lot of bowls. "you will work day and night and leave your children in the care of the elderly. You are too busy to play with them except for your children's academic achievements. You don't even rest for Christmas.
Therefore, although you Chinese children are excellent in their studies, they always feel that they are very different. Compared with the local people, parents are more concerned about the family's money income and their study scores. Not their happiness. " "Yes, I know what you're going to say. You Chinese say it's for the kids, for the next generation, but each generation says they're making money for the next generation, so which generation really uses the money?" "Life is so short that you make excuses for the future of your family and sacrifice your family now. I don't know how this account is calculated and how you can reflect your pride in the family concept. "you can stand a long separation for work. In our eyes, if you don't spend more than three months together, it's basically time to consider a divorce. So when we were sent overseas, we had to be with the whole family. My wife and children moved to Shanghai. If they don't want to come, I can't accept the job. Family is more important than work. I have even heard of your older generation in China, and even couples who have been in two places for decades will not be able to live together until they retire. This is cruel. Don't you give up work for your family? You can find another job, too!
"my Chinese company has great talent, but why can't one of them give up their jobs because they are not local in Shanghai, and their families are in another city and can only meet once a month or even every two months?" I know that there are many farmers who work in the city. They can only go home once a year. They all say that they are making money for their families. But what's the point of having more money like this?. In Australia, you Chinese people are basically richer than the locals, but no one envies your life. I think you are the money machine, but you have painted a family color for your money-making hobbies.
Look around us, how many people, for a house, sacrifice themselves today, work overtime, "when you buy a house, or pay off the loan, you can relax!" wait,-the house is over, there are children!
And how many pregnant women, "wait for the baby to be born."-born more troublesome, better to be in the belly, want to go, where to go! How many child parents, "wait for children to go to primary school relaxed, endure."-school is more relaxed, all kinds of tutoring classes, it is not as easy as kindergarten!
How many parents, in order to a small upgrade, sacrificed their children's childhood, weekend travel in a variety of tutoring classes on the road, "after entering junior high school, free!"-after primary school, found that junior high school also has tutoring classes, and more, Kids don't have time to play! I had to wait for the university to play again. "when the kids go to college, they finish the job."-when college's over, you have to worry about finding a job! "when the kids work, I don't have the burden."-when the job is ready, start worrying about the child's marriage again, the house! "when the child gets married, I don't have to worry about it!"-get married, have a house, and the next generation of the child is coming again! Unfinished heart, tired, so cyclic, our line of sight will always be in the future, for the future, today to accumulate energy, accumulation of certificates, accumulation of tickets. As a result, we complain that our eyes never live in the present, found forever, not a day is for ourselves. In fact, Chinese people live like this all their lives.
The best thing to enjoy is the Americans.
The most believers are Europeans;
From birth to death, it is the Chinese who are full of competition and pressure.
The lives of most Americans:
(B) 10 years old: participation in various collective activities, such as field expeditions;
(B) 20 years of age: in love and in pursuit of dreams;
20-30 years old: find an ordinary and stable job;
30 years old: 40 years old: finally found his pursuit, enjoy the life of having a house, a car and a child;
40 to 50 years of age: often moderate long leave at work stress;
50 / 60: enjoy church life, travel;
Sixty-seven years old: start writing memoirs, traveling;
(B) 70 years of age; 80 years of age: to spend their last years;
Postmortem: general access to cemeteries.
The lives of most Europeans:
10 years old: join a school band, study classical music, etc.
Ten and twenty years old: form your own band and try all kinds of things;
(B) 20 to 30 years: severely affected by Gothic death culture;
Thirty-forty years old: the band began to take the black metal route;
Forty-fifty years old: recall the innocence and begin to live a life of "color";
50 years old 60: settle down, look for warmth, lead a small life;
60 years old: 70 years old: go to church to sum up one's life;
(B) 70 / 80 years of age: to spend their old age in peace with their children;
After death: rest at ease on a large piece of land that belongs to you.
The life of most Chinese:
(B) 10 years old: forced to learn various extra-curricular skills and constantly take examinations, mostly for the sake of parents' face and expectations;
Ten years old, 20 years old: a mountain of books, such as the sea to cope with the examination;
20-30: post resumes everywhere and worry that you can't find a job;
Thirty to forty years old: become a house slave, a car slave;
Forty-fifty years old: worry about the future of the child, save money and save money.
50 years of age 60: finally have their own life, but found that they are about to retire, and began to worry about what to do after retirement;
60-70-year-old: spend most of the energy to preserve health, but discover to have a grandson;
Seventy-eighty years old: finally settled down for the rest of his life;
Before death: find out that a cemetery is too expensive to die!