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An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

 
[Social News]     26 Feb 2017
Every person in the world, every family, every moment has countless stories. You never know what the family is going through when you push open a door.

Every person in the world, every family, every moment has countless stories. You never know what the family is going through when you push open a door.

When the couple from Tianjin were looking forward to setting out for a self-driving trip with their friends, they never thought that the trip had become a promise that they would not know when to live up to.

February 14, 2017, sunny.

Chengxu coma has been 9 days, there is no sign of waking up. Even if it`s Valentine`s Day. Come to the hospital in the morning to see him. As he did yesterday, he lay quietly. I`m going to tell his daughter that she`s home today. I`m sorry, I can`t have my daughter with him. I`m sorry.

My husband, his name has a Xu character, my name is Xia, he is the rising sun I am Chaoxia, we are doomed to the fate of the previous life.

He, 1.80 meters, 75KG, waist 2`5. This figure has not changed since the day he met him. When he was young, he loved to work out and made a good physique. He likes horseback riding, mountain climbing, skiing and archery. There are many friends in Tianjin`s archery circle. He who loves outdoor sports is more fond of traveling.


An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(my husband competes in archery) all of this is so weak in the face of illness.

I try to think this is why, looking at him all over the tube, I want to find out the answer, eyes blurred, tears, do not wipe, tears will always flow dry.

On January 31, 2017, we arrived at the starting point of the trip, Adelaide. There is a 15-day free trip to Australia from here. This is his long-awaited journey.

On the morning of Feb. 1 we wandered through the streets, the red parrots not far from the grass, the tall trees, and the cabin among the woods. The flowers along the road attract our eyes so much. He did not like to take pictures of the scenery in the forest.

Go back to the station in the evening, and we`ll start the barbecue together. Everyone likes his roast chicken wings and steak.

Why are the tears still there?

No. 2 is the day to go fishing, which is one of his favorite itineraries. But.

I can`t remember it any more. It`s not good anymore. It`s just nightmares.

After they got off the boat at noon, he felt his legs weak, and he insisted that he was fine because he had been driving on the mountain road since the 3rd, and he was still the main driver. For the sake of safety, I decided to go to the hospital for a check-up.

While standing in line with a friend`s family doctor, he couldn`t stand. The doctor said it was a stroke, the smaller would recover within 24 hours, and the big would be hard to say. The doctor immediately called for an ambulance, and while waiting for the ambulance, his left hand could move and his leg could lift itself. At the time the doctor said he was supposed to have a minor stroke. Do you want an ambulance to check it out? For the sake of safety, we should decide to have a check-up.


An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(the shark that my husband caught when he went out to sea) went to Flinders Hospital, the ambulance parked outside, paramedics said the doctor was busy, and his left side had gone from weak to strong, and if he found out he was again weak, he was sent to the hospital for examination. I didn`t know what was going on in Australia at the time, but now I think it`s not serious and I`m behind the more urgently needed patients. After an hour of waiting for him, he waited another 40 minutes for the results of the test.

The result of the CT test was that there was no bleeding. One of our hearts was down, but the doctor said his potassium was high and beyond normal, and the doctor had to keep him in the emergency room. There was no danger so he and I couldn`t go on the trip with our friends. I came back to pack, and if he could leave the hospital in two days, I could continue our journey.

My daughter had to be handed over to friends on the same trip, and I planned to meet in Melbourne in three days.


February 3, day two

Before 8: 00 in the morning, we arrived at the hospital. He had gone from the emergency room to the general ward. The nurse said that the potassium had dropped to normal, and the blood pressure had also dropped, only a little higher than the normal value. These are all good news. It sounds like a two-day break to get out of the hospital.

The doctor came to the tour, as the nurse said, but did not say anything about the stroke. We repeatedly emphasized with the doctor his loss of consciousness on the left side yesterday. The doctor re-examined it and found that the left hand and the left foot really raised a little less than the right side. Immediately called in the wind doctor to re-test, after the examination, the wind doctor suggested to send to ICCU.

By the time he was transferred to ICCU`s ward, his left-handed left foot could not be lifted by himself. He was able to express his wish in simple words, and he kept telling me, "hungry, want to eat." I asked the nurse, who said the afternoon CT test required an empty stomach and could not be eaten, and finally CT was changed to the next morning. He was so hungry all day, he looked at him so pitifully.

An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

In the evening, I was alone in the house, afraid and regretting refusing my friend`s kindness to stay with me. Afraid to tell both parents, a person sat like this until dawn.


4 February, third day of admission

Morning CT results came back, his right brain is not bleeding or ischemia. Why did CT work fine two days ago? The doctor may not understand my question.

He seemed to wake up in the evening, and asked me where his daughter had been? We also mentioned the names of our friends on this trip and asked them where they had been. Remember Mudou (friend`s daughter) pushing him when the ambulance arrived, and I know he still wants to catch up with everyone and keep going.


An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(my daughter and husband were at the seaside) Nurse Peter wrote down in the shift that Chengxu`s left arm had moved.


On February 5, on the fourth day of admission, he was less in shape than the day before, but the nurse said it was normal for him to want to sleep now because he slept shallow the night before and every hour to see if he was conscious enough to wake him up. Today also came a girl in charge of recovery, lift his arm, said that the next day to help him start recovery. It feels like everything is going in the right direction. The cruiser also said he was better. His critical period was 96 hours and they had to observe him in ICCU for a few days to find out the cause of his stroke and avoid a recurrence. I am grateful to the doctor for being so responsible.

After 7 p. M. he woke up, and I hurried to talk to him, talk about my daughter, and show him a video of my dog (Friday). My Friday is also spiritual, it does not sleep these days, walking on the ground, hugging the bed and looking out of the window. His restless time is the same as that of her husband`s bad condition.

An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(archery trophy won by my husband)

February 6 (5th day of admission, Monday)

A day that will never be forgotten.

When he arrived at the hospital in the morning, the doctor was in a bad condition, and neither the nurse nor the nurse could wake him up. Take an CT immediately and have a quick check-up.

I`m waiting in waiting room. Wait, wait. I didn`t feel well at once. Two doctors in surgical uniforms appeared in front of me with serious expressions. The nurse is a Chinese nurse. Help me translate. The doctor says my husband has severe brain edema and is life-threatening. He must have a craniotomy immediately to relieve stress. Otherwise, his life is in danger. After so many days of tears in front of doctors and nurses, he can no longer resist the flow of tears. I can`t talk anymore. The doctor needed me to make a decision, but I couldn`t say anything. The nurse asked me, is it difficult for you to make a decision? I nodded, the nurse said: you can not make the decision, the doctor will do it for you. It was up to the patient himself to make the decision, but he can`t do it now. If you can`t decide, it`s up to the doctor to decide. I can finally say a word: can do can save his life? The doctor said yes, I had to nod: listen to the doctor. The doctor said: there is still some time before the operation, you can talk to him.

I held back tears and walked to his bed. But when I opened my mouth and called his name, my tears could not help but flow down again. I said: you need surgery, after the operation is better, don`t worry, I`ll wait for you here. He held my hand with his hand, and tightly asked me, "where`s my daughter?" I said, you can rest assured that you are with your friends, they take good care of them, and then he asks, "where`s Grandma?" Where`s grandma? Is Grandma here? Then he cried, the first time in so many days to see him so sad. I asked the nurse if it was really necessary to do this operation. He`s sober now, isn`t he mistaken? The nurse said it would not be wrong, that he would die without surgery. I watched helplessly as they pushed his bed away until it disappeared.

The original 2-3 hours of surgery took the last 4 hours. I`ve been waiting. The nurse finally came to me at 7 p.m., and told me that the operation was successful and reassured me. I wanted to go in and see him. The nurse said he was on the ventilator now. The medicine gave him a sleep break. I couldn`t hear what I said. Let me see if he would go to rest. I had to do it, too.

An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(my husband and Australian archery coach)

Called home at night, told the operation went smoothly, thinking today is the worst news, from today will be better and better. That night was the first dinner since February 3, a cup of milk, a few biscuits, and no lunch or dinner for so many days. What I didn`t know was that it wasn`t the worst day yet.


Feb. 7, 6th day of admission, first day of coma, Tuesday

After the operation, he did not reduce the edema as the doctor said, slowly improved, as if more serious. The doctor arranged for him to have an MRI at 11:30. I`m waiting for the results in waiting room.

The nurse came to me at 4 p. M., and I asked what was the result of the test? The nurse said wait for the doctor to come and talk to you. As soon as I hear this, I`m talking about my voice. Is there any bad news? The doctor told me that there was a vein on each side of the neck and then split up into two branches. One of the branches on his right was completely blocked, unable to supply blood to the brain, causing the death of brain cells, and it was irreversible. The consequences are left-sided paralysis, impaired language function, and no exclusion of other blood vessels. I asked for the best and worst possible, and the doctor said it would be better to recover, but this is almost impossible, and the worst is not going back. It was like a bolt from the blue, and he couldn`t stand up after that? Such a strong man, such a man who loves sports, such a man who loves archery, can`t stand up again in the future?

I can`t believe it. I can`t believe it. Two days ago, when admitted to the hospital, there was still consciousness, why is the treatment getting worse and worse? Doctors say the best time for treatment is only four hours. Maybe it happened on board. It`s too late to get to the hospital. But no, number 2 regained consciousness on his left side in the ambulance, and on the morning of the third he also had consciousness on his left side, and he was very high, and his left arm and left leg could be lifted up, ah, that means he is not clogged yet? You got a chance to save him? Why didn`t you check it out? Why can`t I get an MRI right away?

The doctor explained that this is the process, first do simple and then do complex, now the hospital MRI patients have been queued up six months later, is based on the patient`s urgent needs to arrange. At that time, my husband had begun to recover himself, even when I urged that the system here would not be arranged. I heard tears like rain, so he missed the best time for treatment, so he can no longer stand up! Remorse, regret, pain, all kinds of emotions filled my heart, I have wept, I can not control myself. Nurse Jin Xia worried that I was in this state alone and let me stay with her. But the bad news ensued.

An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(my daughter has dinner with her husband at the seaside)


February 8, the seventh day of admission, the second day of the coma, Wednesday

I fell asleep at more than one o`clock in the morning. When I heard someone calling me, I woke up immediately and opened my eyes. It was Jin Xia, a nurse. She asked me to take a call from a hospital. On the phone, she said that he was given another check-up, that the brain water was serious, and that he needed to have a brain operation immediately. Otherwise, she would be in danger of life. I need my consent, I can only ah, can`t say a word. On the other side of the phone: you have to say in English that I agree to the operation. I painstakingly repeated what they had asked me to say, and then they said to arrange the operation within an hour.

When I hung up the phone, it was 4: 07 in the morning. I opened my eyes, and I didn`t feel it anymore. Honey, do you want to say goodbye to me like this? Our trip has not yet begun, we still have to go to many places, ah, our daughter is still young, we have to watch him grow up, go to high school, go to college, she wants you to take her hand with her and go away, I thought we agreed to wait for her to get older. When we don`t need to be around, do we travel together and travel all over the country? How can you leave me alone to do these things! Thinking of the old days, I was always busy at work every day, came home early, his daughter was his pick-up, every day he cooked the meal well and waited for me to come home, everything was so normal, but it was such a normal day that I no longer had it. How to live without him!

An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(post-operative patients)


At last it was dawn, and it was time to go to the hospital to see him. He fell asleep so peacefully on his bed that he did not seem to have had a rough morning wave at all. My heart is calmer, I know he is still there.

February 9, eighth day of admission, third day of coma, Thursday

Feb. 10, 9th day of admission, fourth day of coma, Friday

February 11, 10th day of admission, fifth day of coma, Saturday

Feb. 12, 11 th day of admission, 6 th day of coma, Sunday.

Ade`s friend came back with me early after the trip, and had been staying at their house. Thank them.

An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(itinerary before admission: fishing with friends)


Husband, today is Valentine`s Day, it is February 14, you have been unconscious for eight days, today my daughter will return to China, she asked me, she gave my father shell hanging in the ward? When will Dad be okay? When can I return home? Tell me, what am I supposed to say to my daughter? What am I supposed to tell mom and dad? Tell me!

Follow-up: February 8, I received a strange phone call, she said that her name is Bai Yan, from Tianjin, China, is my fellow-townsman, is Flinders`s nurse told her about me, she would like to see me, want to help me. We met and she gave me a lot of help. With the help of Bai Yan, more compatriots reached out to help me. Some of them I saw: Hu Miao, Wang Xiao, Zhang Heling, Wang Jinshe, Helen Wu, Joan, Helen Gong, and Chinese nurses: JIN, Pingping, Jin Xia, ALICE,Social worker ANNA. More people I don`t know names, we never met, they don`t know who I am to help me, I don`t know how to appreciate.

I asked Pingping: why do you help me so much? It is inconceivable that such a thing would happen at home. Clearly remember her answer: after I came here, I feel that people and people are very simple, people are helping me, and I am willing to help others. Is really the simplest words, the simplest truth. I like this country, people who love it, especially my compatriots.


February twenty _ fourth He`s not awake yet, and I`m looking forward to it. I wish I could hold on..


An unstoppable trip to Australia: dream of Adelaide

(my husband, who was once very healthy and has a passion for sports.)


The postscript of the time:

Over the past two days, the kidney of the patient had been dialyzed by stroke, and she had to continue with comprehensive treatment even when she returned home. She was alone facing a sudden blow and an incalculable cost of later treatment and rehabilitation, both economically and economically. Or psychologically, are unimaginable enormous pressure.

Even more unfortunate, there was no travel insurance outside Shanghai because of a misunderstanding of what domestic insurance called "overseas rescue additional insurance" before coming to Australia. Overseas insurance is purchased only for ambulances and does not include a range of costs such as local treatment, surgery and so on.

The author told Zeijun that her husband went into ICU, from the 2nd to have a craniotomy and another brain operation, and so far she has been in a coma. And in Adelaide, far away from home, she had no family, and even started looking for a way to get to the hospital to open up GPS, but all she could do was bear it all herself. But she is still grateful for the help she has received in the strange city of Adelaide, even from strangers who have never known each other, which is one of the warmest memories of painful days.


February 27-tomorrow, her husband`s birthday, but the husband and wife warm celebration of the day, but still can only quietly stay in the ward. This article is issued today, can also be said to be a memorial: the time with you, looking forward to your he quickly wake up, personally listen to him you said "Happy Birthday!"

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